My boys decided a fun activity with their friends yesterday would be to carve pumpkins. This is an activity that has tortured me for years. This is why. Carving with knives is dangerous. We can never seem to find our cute pumpkin carving kit this time of year. Out come the butcher knives. I am not artistic. It takes the strength of Godzilla sometimes to get through a pumpkin. It is so freakin messy. But fun is fun and you're only a kid once so of course I can't say no to what seems a reasonably constructive activity.
So off the boys go on bikes to buy pumpkins. First pumpkin in process of getting cleaned out gets dropped. Son finds picture of something you can still do with a cracked pumpkin. I'm only half paying attention. Boy that dropped pumpkin goes and gets another one. Boys research again on computer more pumpkin carving ideas. I say, "that one with the pumpkin throwing up seeds always makes me laugh". Someone should have stopped me at this point. The truth is I really did not realize that the pumpkin had partied too much and that is why he threw up the seeds. Again, only half paying attention.
This is the problem with only half paying attention to what your 13 year old boys are doing. See above picture. Well, aren't they creative. Happy Halloween and join me in listening a little better next time. Maybe not the most appropriate door step for a house with just teenagers.
Monday, October 31, 2011
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Change and Finding Balance = Peace
Now, I'm not trying to be like a 21st century female Aristotle. I'm just writing about what I'm thinking and what I'm going through at this interesting stage of my life and I think maybe some people can relate (and it will never be about hot flashes)! I am all about change. I like change. I am always thinking of ways to reinvent myself. Improve this - tweak that; say yes to this; no to that; it's all good. No settling in; too boring. Plus, I think if we're always changing then we're ready for life's curve balls. Today, I'm bored. Today, I'm too busy. There's no perfect day. The trick is the balance. Everyday you wake up, your feet hit the ground and you make decisions. Some good; some bad: but it's still all about the balance.
I've started working the past couple of weeks. One of my sisters hooked me up. It's something I've wanted to do for awhile and now here it is. I like it. It's throwing me a lot of curve balls. It's challenging me and making me feel a little more important. I know not everyone needs that but I think it's okay to admit I do. I didn't realize how much I do during the day for my family. It's very interesting shuffling priorities around. Does my house really need to look like it could be shown by a realtor at 10am? Not that there is anything wrong with that. When I can, I will and I do take pride in that side of me. But I can actually let it go here and there and it's okay. Again, for me it's about changing my way of thinking and balance.
I know someone who just changed jobs after 23 years in the same job. My mom didn't work a full time job until after she had been home almost 13 years. I've been doing the mom job pretty exclusively for 13 (almost 14 years) and I am positive that I needed a change. The good thing to remember is change isn't permanent. It can be for as long as it is good and adding value to your life. This is definitely a life lesson learned from my mom (see picture above).
So balance - that is the challenge. Update here - I'm not at my skinniest and I'm not at my fattest. I've been enjoying the wine, but not necessarily downing Oreos. Now, that is good balance. See this is easy. I've been very consistent with exercise. I changed my hair do for the fall. I changed my purse. If you don't know about the Dooney & Bourke trade in program; let me fill you in. You can send any old Dooney & Bourke purse or wallet to www.dooney.com and they will send you a gift certificate towards the purchase of a new bag. So join me this week and embrace some sort of change. Peace out....
I've started working the past couple of weeks. One of my sisters hooked me up. It's something I've wanted to do for awhile and now here it is. I like it. It's throwing me a lot of curve balls. It's challenging me and making me feel a little more important. I know not everyone needs that but I think it's okay to admit I do. I didn't realize how much I do during the day for my family. It's very interesting shuffling priorities around. Does my house really need to look like it could be shown by a realtor at 10am? Not that there is anything wrong with that. When I can, I will and I do take pride in that side of me. But I can actually let it go here and there and it's okay. Again, for me it's about changing my way of thinking and balance.
I know someone who just changed jobs after 23 years in the same job. My mom didn't work a full time job until after she had been home almost 13 years. I've been doing the mom job pretty exclusively for 13 (almost 14 years) and I am positive that I needed a change. The good thing to remember is change isn't permanent. It can be for as long as it is good and adding value to your life. This is definitely a life lesson learned from my mom (see picture above).
So balance - that is the challenge. Update here - I'm not at my skinniest and I'm not at my fattest. I've been enjoying the wine, but not necessarily downing Oreos. Now, that is good balance. See this is easy. I've been very consistent with exercise. I changed my hair do for the fall. I changed my purse. If you don't know about the Dooney & Bourke trade in program; let me fill you in. You can send any old Dooney & Bourke purse or wallet to www.dooney.com and they will send you a gift certificate towards the purchase of a new bag. So join me this week and embrace some sort of change. Peace out....
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
When In Rome vs When In Cary
Well, the eagle has landed. What do I mean? Visualize this...a Halloween pumpkin with legs. That is what I feel like today.
Ahhh, Italy - those were the days. Only weeks ago, but it seems like forever. Wine for lunch and why the heck not - wine for dinner. So delicious, relaxing and fun. So hard to stop. Keep in mind, I haven't stooped to having wine for lunch (well, unless I was in good company - if you insist - maybe). This is the problem. Wine and a skinny waste line do not go together = that sucks, but true.
So two weeks of overindulging has led to a eating/drinking downward spiral. Is there any truth to the thought that once you stretch your stomach by over eating - think pizza, pasta, and bread at every meal that it is almost impossible to stop. Feels like it. I can do it. Maybe I'm part bear preparing for a long winter of hibernation? I think my underwear feels tight. That is not a good feeling by the way.
The good news is it's almost sweater weather and what a good cover up a nice big sweater is. I hear you saying, "but you exercise all the time and you cook healthy". Bottom line here. Too many calories are going in. Period. Has nothing to do with amount of exercise or eating healthy. I'm just eating too much.
So yes, the food and fun in Italy was beyond memorable but I need to stop the vacation mentality and get back to real life. I really want to fit into my jeans and not feel like a Halloweeen pumpkin. Back to food journaling; join me!
Ahhh, Italy - those were the days. Only weeks ago, but it seems like forever. Wine for lunch and why the heck not - wine for dinner. So delicious, relaxing and fun. So hard to stop. Keep in mind, I haven't stooped to having wine for lunch (well, unless I was in good company - if you insist - maybe). This is the problem. Wine and a skinny waste line do not go together = that sucks, but true.
So two weeks of overindulging has led to a eating/drinking downward spiral. Is there any truth to the thought that once you stretch your stomach by over eating - think pizza, pasta, and bread at every meal that it is almost impossible to stop. Feels like it. I can do it. Maybe I'm part bear preparing for a long winter of hibernation? I think my underwear feels tight. That is not a good feeling by the way.
The good news is it's almost sweater weather and what a good cover up a nice big sweater is. I hear you saying, "but you exercise all the time and you cook healthy". Bottom line here. Too many calories are going in. Period. Has nothing to do with amount of exercise or eating healthy. I'm just eating too much.
So yes, the food and fun in Italy was beyond memorable but I need to stop the vacation mentality and get back to real life. I really want to fit into my jeans and not feel like a Halloweeen pumpkin. Back to food journaling; join me!
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
All is Fair in Love and Bikinis
So, I didn't take a picture of an Italian man in a "man bikini" or what we always called a "banana ham mick". And I sure didn't see anyone who rocked it like this picture. But my thought process was this. Wow, they have really stuck by their guns and have not gone with the American fashion of baggy swim suits. I respect their resilience and I gotta say, I like how it evens the playing field of bikinis on the beach or at the pool; equally humiliating men and women alike.
There is absolutely no room for error in a bikini. Now we (American women) have known that forever. Every spring we torture ourselves with bathing suit shopping. We've gone the the string bikini (very young days or possibly one of the "Housewives", the tankini route, the skirt bikini etc. I (we) kill myself in the spring working out so that there isn't more than 1 or 2 rolls poking over the bottoms. I think we might sweat this process out a whole lot less if our man was going to wear one too! It was awesome. Couples - not perfect physical specimens - sporty bikinis together. American men, standing around gawking on the beach, might have a lot less to say about what women look like in a bikini if they were wearing one too. I'm sure of it and I now know one Christmas present someone is getting.
The Italians even take it as far as lingerie. Seriously! I loved walking by the "lingerie" store and seeing Men's and Women's Lingerie in the window. OMG, seriously. Can you imagine getting your "American" husband lingerie and him appreciating it in anyway. Is there anyway he wouldn't think you were joking? I'm not talking about baggy, long, drawstring flannel pants. I'm talking about a sequined, bedazzled bikini bottom. And I don't think this is just for holidays...
So as much as this fashion wearing topic is not going to change anything in my house, it does say to me sometimes it doesn't hurt to level the playing field. What I mean is - we (women) shouldn't have expectations for ourselves that we wouldn't expect of our spouse or vice versa. It speaks to the whole "double standard" way of viewing things. In this instance, the Italians got it right. "Better not eat that cookie honey, you have a bikini to wear very soon." It makes me laugh just thinking of it...
Speaking of all this bikini wearing, I'm glad I don't have to put one on anytime soon. I fell into some "Neopolitan Oreos" lately and have to drag myself out although I think it was too late. It's almost jean time and that means - well you know; join me!
There is absolutely no room for error in a bikini. Now we (American women) have known that forever. Every spring we torture ourselves with bathing suit shopping. We've gone the the string bikini (very young days or possibly one of the "Housewives", the tankini route, the skirt bikini etc. I (we) kill myself in the spring working out so that there isn't more than 1 or 2 rolls poking over the bottoms. I think we might sweat this process out a whole lot less if our man was going to wear one too! It was awesome. Couples - not perfect physical specimens - sporty bikinis together. American men, standing around gawking on the beach, might have a lot less to say about what women look like in a bikini if they were wearing one too. I'm sure of it and I now know one Christmas present someone is getting.
The Italians even take it as far as lingerie. Seriously! I loved walking by the "lingerie" store and seeing Men's and Women's Lingerie in the window. OMG, seriously. Can you imagine getting your "American" husband lingerie and him appreciating it in anyway. Is there anyway he wouldn't think you were joking? I'm not talking about baggy, long, drawstring flannel pants. I'm talking about a sequined, bedazzled bikini bottom. And I don't think this is just for holidays...
So as much as this fashion wearing topic is not going to change anything in my house, it does say to me sometimes it doesn't hurt to level the playing field. What I mean is - we (women) shouldn't have expectations for ourselves that we wouldn't expect of our spouse or vice versa. It speaks to the whole "double standard" way of viewing things. In this instance, the Italians got it right. "Better not eat that cookie honey, you have a bikini to wear very soon." It makes me laugh just thinking of it...
Speaking of all this bikini wearing, I'm glad I don't have to put one on anytime soon. I fell into some "Neopolitan Oreos" lately and have to drag myself out although I think it was too late. It's almost jean time and that means - well you know; join me!
Monday, September 12, 2011
Italy - The Beginning
Finally, I have my pictures. Daughter left camera battery charger in the wall at the hotel in Florence. Our camera battery died in the ruins of Pompeii on our second week of vacation. I had to order replacement battery charger from Amazon. It was all a process. I needed to be inspired by pictures for my stories. This picture was the beginning. My husband dropped us off at the airport. We were dressed comfortably, but also ready to spend the day in Italy should we not be able to check into our room early. It's so funny to think of now. We really cared how we presented ourselves leaving. Coming back totally another story. I'm pretty sure we were in yoga pants and tshirts (and there's no picture documenting return). My dad travels in a suit coat. Always, no matter the temperature. It's a family thing I guess.
I'll continue with Italy stories tomorrow. Today, I need to get my long run in early. Philly Rock n Roll 1/2 Marathon is this coming Sunday. I need to get one more long run in before. Looks like I'm officially starting a work project (assisting one of my sisters) today. She's expecting me at my desk ready to take her call at 9. I need to be showered and dressed to feel professional by then - it's amazing how just dressing the part can help feel/be successful for the job/event. It's all related somehow.
So if you're still thinking about running, playing tennis, trying yoga etc.. Maybe the first step is going out and getting a new outfit for the event. That makes it sound more fun...and take a friend; it's more fun to shop with someone special - dress the part and get moving; join me!
I'll continue with Italy stories tomorrow. Today, I need to get my long run in early. Philly Rock n Roll 1/2 Marathon is this coming Sunday. I need to get one more long run in before. Looks like I'm officially starting a work project (assisting one of my sisters) today. She's expecting me at my desk ready to take her call at 9. I need to be showered and dressed to feel professional by then - it's amazing how just dressing the part can help feel/be successful for the job/event. It's all related somehow.
So if you're still thinking about running, playing tennis, trying yoga etc.. Maybe the first step is going out and getting a new outfit for the event. That makes it sound more fun...and take a friend; it's more fun to shop with someone special - dress the part and get moving; join me!
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
We Made It
Well, I shut original attempt at blog down and am starting again on my sisters laptop in a little hallway outside our room in Florence where we have a window of WIFI.
Rome was exactly what everyone tells you. You have to go there if you're in Italy. But it was dirty, expensive, not that friendly and a little bit full of itself if that makes sense. Love the double decker bus tour as a quick way to see all of the city and take little naps as needed, but you have to get out on foot to find good food that's not a tourist trap. I have to say even with my limited geographical abilities getting from airport to the city to our hotel was not that difficult. But after being at our front desk for the 100th time with question/problem etc we finally asked the guy why he seemed so grumpy (I was starting to take it a little personal). He said they have never been this full in August and he wants to be on vacation. I'm thinking "Dude, everyone else in your country is thankful for the business," but weirdly I didn't get that vibe. And who gets to just say they are cash only, seriously, they took my $ and gave me 1/2 and then complain about VISA charges? We called the Vatican Museum tour on their 5 euros extra to use the credit card machine and then suddenly it was broken. Vatican City and the Sistine Chapel were awesome as were the coliseum and numerous fountains.
We saw what we needed to see and are now in a much more beautiful place - Florence.
Took the train from Rome. It was relatively easy and not crazy expensive (17 euros) but the express was cancelled and what should have been a 1/2 day trip took all day. After setting up shop and heading out, we were really getting into the whole experience and quaintness of Florence. Yep, you guessed it not me but my sister had her wallet stolen. I swear I felt a little jynxed as I had read and heard so much about pick pocketers. Lucky, she had spread out her stuff and isn't completely devastated, but what a pain. Ridiculously hard to make a collect call from here. They definitely have cut back on the expense of having international operators.
Oh well, it is going to be a great day tomorrow.... watching Francine plank and "owl" may be the most entertaining when all is said and done. Look at pic at bottom of page to figure out what that means. I'll work on better pics of "owling". Too funny.
Rome was exactly what everyone tells you. You have to go there if you're in Italy. But it was dirty, expensive, not that friendly and a little bit full of itself if that makes sense. Love the double decker bus tour as a quick way to see all of the city and take little naps as needed, but you have to get out on foot to find good food that's not a tourist trap. I have to say even with my limited geographical abilities getting from airport to the city to our hotel was not that difficult. But after being at our front desk for the 100th time with question/problem etc we finally asked the guy why he seemed so grumpy (I was starting to take it a little personal). He said they have never been this full in August and he wants to be on vacation. I'm thinking "Dude, everyone else in your country is thankful for the business," but weirdly I didn't get that vibe. And who gets to just say they are cash only, seriously, they took my $ and gave me 1/2 and then complain about VISA charges? We called the Vatican Museum tour on their 5 euros extra to use the credit card machine and then suddenly it was broken. Vatican City and the Sistine Chapel were awesome as were the coliseum and numerous fountains.
We saw what we needed to see and are now in a much more beautiful place - Florence.
Took the train from Rome. It was relatively easy and not crazy expensive (17 euros) but the express was cancelled and what should have been a 1/2 day trip took all day. After setting up shop and heading out, we were really getting into the whole experience and quaintness of Florence. Yep, you guessed it not me but my sister had her wallet stolen. I swear I felt a little jynxed as I had read and heard so much about pick pocketers. Lucky, she had spread out her stuff and isn't completely devastated, but what a pain. Ridiculously hard to make a collect call from here. They definitely have cut back on the expense of having international operators.
Oh well, it is going to be a great day tomorrow.... watching Francine plank and "owl" may be the most entertaining when all is said and done. Look at pic at bottom of page to figure out what that means. I'll work on better pics of "owling". Too funny.
Friday, August 5, 2011
Fair Warning
Well the Stylski girls are 1/2 packed and have one foot out the door.
I'm leaving with the following ground rules in place. No sleep overs for the next 2 weeks at Casa Stylski. Sleep outs welcome! Papa Bear doesn't go up to the third floor (slumber party location) to survey the damage. It almost feels insurmountable when I return from a trip. I'm talking dishes, clothing, cases of empty drinks bottles and just plain ole crap everywhere (potentially including dog crap). And just for the record and I may be repeating myself here; there was a slumber party that involved streaking. I'm sure you don't want your children involved in these sort of shenanigans. Needless to say Papa Bear is a very heavy sleeper so nights could be a free for all. Keep your children away. Rule #2 - No friends over after school when there is not an adult home especially for BMXing. Now this may sound obvious, but somehow it will be overlooked and ignored. We used to have a trampoline. I am an idiot and really do I need to say more. As soon as I'm gone there's been head staples, loose teeth, concussions - and you thought I was just a "Nervous Nelly" to be leaving? Trust me, I have sufficient reason to be cautiously optimistic that everyone will still have their limbs when I get back. I just saw this morning (and I was here for the BMX party yesterday) a hatchet and hand saw for some reason out on work bench in the garage. I'm waiting to confront the boys when they get back from school today as to what the uses of those tools was yesterday. I'm scared...........
So fair warning. Lock your children up and don't let them anywhere near Casa Stylski for the next 2 weeks. I will be blogging from Italy and can't wait to share our adventures so you can all feel like you've joined us. "Cioa" or the country girl in me really wants to say "chow"...
I'm leaving with the following ground rules in place. No sleep overs for the next 2 weeks at Casa Stylski. Sleep outs welcome! Papa Bear doesn't go up to the third floor (slumber party location) to survey the damage. It almost feels insurmountable when I return from a trip. I'm talking dishes, clothing, cases of empty drinks bottles and just plain ole crap everywhere (potentially including dog crap). And just for the record and I may be repeating myself here; there was a slumber party that involved streaking. I'm sure you don't want your children involved in these sort of shenanigans. Needless to say Papa Bear is a very heavy sleeper so nights could be a free for all. Keep your children away. Rule #2 - No friends over after school when there is not an adult home especially for BMXing. Now this may sound obvious, but somehow it will be overlooked and ignored. We used to have a trampoline. I am an idiot and really do I need to say more. As soon as I'm gone there's been head staples, loose teeth, concussions - and you thought I was just a "Nervous Nelly" to be leaving? Trust me, I have sufficient reason to be cautiously optimistic that everyone will still have their limbs when I get back. I just saw this morning (and I was here for the BMX party yesterday) a hatchet and hand saw for some reason out on work bench in the garage. I'm waiting to confront the boys when they get back from school today as to what the uses of those tools was yesterday. I'm scared...........
So fair warning. Lock your children up and don't let them anywhere near Casa Stylski for the next 2 weeks. I will be blogging from Italy and can't wait to share our adventures so you can all feel like you've joined us. "Cioa" or the country girl in me really wants to say "chow"...
Monday, August 1, 2011
Summer Life
This is not your normal summer. Wow, that says it all for me right now. We had our annual family vacation in Avalon, New Jersey in June. I don't understand how a vacation is a vacation when I swear it takes a week to prepare; you're gone a week; and that it takes a week to get back to normal. It was awesome though. Just came back from my sisters/girls weekend at the beach in Delaware. Still recovering; not fun at all. What's fun about hanging out on the beach, laughing, dancing and partying with all girls? This Saturday, I leave for Italy for two weeks with my daughter. We are meeting one of my sisters who is on a round the world trip and basically offered to put up anyone that wanted to join her for any portion of the trip. My daughter and I decided to join her for her two week leg in Italy. Honestly, I don't think it has really sunk in that we're going. I've said it before and I'll say it again, "my life does not suck".
I do have a few worries. Things don't necessarily go that well when mommy is gone. When I walked in the door recently from being gone for 4 days; things were definitely a little out of control; think empty pizza boxes, crazy dog, dog pee on new carpet, whining - sleep deprived teenagers claiming to have no homework (emails from teachers detailing missing work); you can picture the situation? I'm guessing; maybe you've even been there before?
The boys have started 8th grade (year round school) and there is a lot of homework. They had been on Track 1 since 4th grade. I changed their Track to Track 4 for 7th grade thinking it would be nice for them to be on the same schedule as their High School sister. Big mistake. Nice for the family Spring Break trip, but every 9 weeks they were off for 3 weeks with only 1 friend. They missed their big group of friends, so I switched them back to Track 1 for this year which means they only had one week off in between 7th and 8th grade. In my defense, they wanted to do this; in their defense this is hell! Seriously, could there be anything worse for a teenage boy than to have only one week of summer? This summer has been rough for them and getting up at 5:50am a little rough for all of us at times. There is also a lot of crazy 13 year old testosterone being thrown around Casa Stylski. When mommy is gone people don't follow as strict of a schedule, as in really no schedule. They don't go to bed when they should. They don't eat normal meals. They eat anywhere, but in the kitchen. They fight. They touch walls like they're tagging a basket every time they leave a room. It's like someone got a hall pass. So I've called in the recruits. My friend's college age daughter is going to hold the fort down week one and my mom is headed here for week two. Now, my parents have preached from day one they are not babysitters. But, my mom is currently in between jobs and I think she sensed the desperation in my voice when I recapped coming home recently. She has agreed to come and I bought her the ticket. The boys are happy. I can't wait to see how this goes. The good news is as hideous as they may be for me they tend to be angels for other people. If my mom sees them at their worst they may be enrolled in military school when I get back which I've given seriously thought to myself. I may not be that upset/shocked about their absence.
Physically, I was doing great leading up to the girls beach trip. We had good intentions of getting in some good runs. The heat combined with some late nights didn't lend itself to exercise, so we ended up taking a few days off. This led to a down slide for me. There's something about being in a bathing suit for a few days that had kept a girl on her toes. Plus, the fact that I was competing for beach bodies with my sister that is 10 years younger than me and has been doing Sean T's "Insanity" for 2 months and my fitness trainer buddy who is still in her 20's. That's a tall order for this old lady to fill. I managed. And then I threw in the towel. I let myself enjoy some (I can't even repeat the list) but now it's back on the healthy bandwagon (with the exception of tonight's Bachelorette Finale). There is no way I'm getting through this awful show with out a few cocktails with my buddies. So really, I'll be good starting tomorrow!
I completed my "Navy Seals" competition Saturday and had a blast. It was a challenge, but rewarding. Next up is my Philadelphia Rock n Roll 1/2 Marathon in September. I can't wait! I plan on being very active in Italy and enjoy as much culture as I can on foot.
I know I've been slacking with the blogs. Fame doesn't seem to have found me yet. Still waiting for the call....I'm going to make August an awesome last month of the summer; join me!
I do have a few worries. Things don't necessarily go that well when mommy is gone. When I walked in the door recently from being gone for 4 days; things were definitely a little out of control; think empty pizza boxes, crazy dog, dog pee on new carpet, whining - sleep deprived teenagers claiming to have no homework (emails from teachers detailing missing work); you can picture the situation? I'm guessing; maybe you've even been there before?
The boys have started 8th grade (year round school) and there is a lot of homework. They had been on Track 1 since 4th grade. I changed their Track to Track 4 for 7th grade thinking it would be nice for them to be on the same schedule as their High School sister. Big mistake. Nice for the family Spring Break trip, but every 9 weeks they were off for 3 weeks with only 1 friend. They missed their big group of friends, so I switched them back to Track 1 for this year which means they only had one week off in between 7th and 8th grade. In my defense, they wanted to do this; in their defense this is hell! Seriously, could there be anything worse for a teenage boy than to have only one week of summer? This summer has been rough for them and getting up at 5:50am a little rough for all of us at times. There is also a lot of crazy 13 year old testosterone being thrown around Casa Stylski. When mommy is gone people don't follow as strict of a schedule, as in really no schedule. They don't go to bed when they should. They don't eat normal meals. They eat anywhere, but in the kitchen. They fight. They touch walls like they're tagging a basket every time they leave a room. It's like someone got a hall pass. So I've called in the recruits. My friend's college age daughter is going to hold the fort down week one and my mom is headed here for week two. Now, my parents have preached from day one they are not babysitters. But, my mom is currently in between jobs and I think she sensed the desperation in my voice when I recapped coming home recently. She has agreed to come and I bought her the ticket. The boys are happy. I can't wait to see how this goes. The good news is as hideous as they may be for me they tend to be angels for other people. If my mom sees them at their worst they may be enrolled in military school when I get back which I've given seriously thought to myself. I may not be that upset/shocked about their absence.
Physically, I was doing great leading up to the girls beach trip. We had good intentions of getting in some good runs. The heat combined with some late nights didn't lend itself to exercise, so we ended up taking a few days off. This led to a down slide for me. There's something about being in a bathing suit for a few days that had kept a girl on her toes. Plus, the fact that I was competing for beach bodies with my sister that is 10 years younger than me and has been doing Sean T's "Insanity" for 2 months and my fitness trainer buddy who is still in her 20's. That's a tall order for this old lady to fill. I managed. And then I threw in the towel. I let myself enjoy some (I can't even repeat the list) but now it's back on the healthy bandwagon (with the exception of tonight's Bachelorette Finale). There is no way I'm getting through this awful show with out a few cocktails with my buddies. So really, I'll be good starting tomorrow!
I completed my "Navy Seals" competition Saturday and had a blast. It was a challenge, but rewarding. Next up is my Philadelphia Rock n Roll 1/2 Marathon in September. I can't wait! I plan on being very active in Italy and enjoy as much culture as I can on foot.
I know I've been slacking with the blogs. Fame doesn't seem to have found me yet. Still waiting for the call....I'm going to make August an awesome last month of the summer; join me!
Thursday, July 14, 2011
My "Secret"
http://thesecret.tv/thesecretbook/
I don't need to buy this book. The general idea (and I am overly generalizing) is if you think positively; positive things happen. This isn't rocket science, but I do think some people are just programmed naturally this way and others have to work at it.
My buddy Janna Fisler was recently diagnosed with AML (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acute_myeloid_leukemia. That totally sucks. But I have to tell you it didn't occur to me that she wouldn't lick it. To see her progress go to "Lickin' Leukemia" on Facebook. She's doing great and the prognosis is good. What an inspiration!
One of my sisters recently accidentally left her laptop on the Greyhound bus from New York City to Atlantic City. She was obviously freaked out as so much of her life was on the laptop. I knew she'd get it back. Turns out the cleaning company had left a message about it with 24 hours of finding it and returned it to her. Luck or positive thinking? It never occurred to me that the finder wouldn't return it and I told her so.
I've been AOL for awhile with kids stuff, vacation etc. My mother in law is here for a 5 week visit. 14 members of our family went to Avalon, New Jersey (the shore) for a week in one house. Now, this is when the secret really comes in handy. A group family house requires a lot of patience, flexibility and alcohol. Luckily growing up in the group house environment has trained us all well and we didn't have any mishaps. We enjoy it and the kids love it.
Ahhh, the power of positive thinking; join me! I swear it works. I'm thinking it's not going to be as hot today...
I don't need to buy this book. The general idea (and I am overly generalizing) is if you think positively; positive things happen. This isn't rocket science, but I do think some people are just programmed naturally this way and others have to work at it.
My buddy Janna Fisler was recently diagnosed with AML (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acute_myeloid_leukemia. That totally sucks. But I have to tell you it didn't occur to me that she wouldn't lick it. To see her progress go to "Lickin' Leukemia" on Facebook. She's doing great and the prognosis is good. What an inspiration!
One of my sisters recently accidentally left her laptop on the Greyhound bus from New York City to Atlantic City. She was obviously freaked out as so much of her life was on the laptop. I knew she'd get it back. Turns out the cleaning company had left a message about it with 24 hours of finding it and returned it to her. Luck or positive thinking? It never occurred to me that the finder wouldn't return it and I told her so.
I've been AOL for awhile with kids stuff, vacation etc. My mother in law is here for a 5 week visit. 14 members of our family went to Avalon, New Jersey (the shore) for a week in one house. Now, this is when the secret really comes in handy. A group family house requires a lot of patience, flexibility and alcohol. Luckily growing up in the group house environment has trained us all well and we didn't have any mishaps. We enjoy it and the kids love it.
Ahhh, the power of positive thinking; join me! I swear it works. I'm thinking it's not going to be as hot today...
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Check and Double Check
Was very excited about my appointment this week at the Healthy Diet Center in Raleigh, NC http://www.healthydietsinc.com/ . They can do the test of your personal metabolic calorie rate (how many calories your body burns in rest), body fat percentage, and analysis of your daily diet etc...
Confirmed what I thought; the older you get the less you can eat. Really, it is amazing how fast calories can add up. We discussed one of my favorite diets; "Fit For Life". Basically it's about daily exercise, how to mix foods and has a free day. I love "free" eating days. I've discovered they don't love me. Why? Because I don't think binging one day a week is A) a healthy mindset and B)I can ruin a week of good eating with 1 day of bad. Maybe when they said free they didn't mean Kettle Chips, a corn dog and a hot fudge sundae. Bottom line, I discovered through my meeting that a free day for me would be treating myself to a frozen yogurt or a glass of wine. Yes, you read correctly - "a" glass of wine. And my daily calorie intake has no room for any wine - whine!!!
I originally lost weight on Weight Watchers; love their program. Really, the best way to know what you are taking in calorie wise is to keep track. I'm a big fan of food journaling and love this site and am going to start using it today - http://www.myfitnesspal.com/. Weight watchers also kept me honest with a weekly weigh in, otherwise I would live in a fantasy world. You know the world where mysteriously your clothes are shrinking and you get really pissed at your dryer or dry cleaner for secretly sabotaging you. I make myself get on the scale once a week (of course only completely naked after a serious workout before food).
I don't take a vitamin, but my counselor did suggest adding a calcium supplement with vitamin D. I'm going to check into that at Walmart. I'll let you know what I find out.
So this is my sample day of healthy eating and within my calories to maintain my current weight (keep in mind this is with 1.5 hours of daily exercise):
Wake up - coffee and 1/2 banana
Breakfast - 1/2 cup of Oatmeal made w/1 c light vanilla soy milk w/little bit of raisins and almonds
Mid morning snack - Whey protein shake w/fruit, plain yogurt
Lunch - Zone bar if on the run or turkey sandwich
Snack - fruit or yogurt
Dinner - protein, carb and veggie (normal serving sizes)
I have been feeling a lot better having smaller meals more frequently. I definitely try to think ahead and be prepared if I'm going to be out that I have something to snack on with me. And yes, I am within my healthy weight/body fat %'s, but it is a battle. We're all going to fall off the wagon sometimes. I do frequently. But I'm determined to continue to fight - join me!
Confirmed what I thought; the older you get the less you can eat. Really, it is amazing how fast calories can add up. We discussed one of my favorite diets; "Fit For Life". Basically it's about daily exercise, how to mix foods and has a free day. I love "free" eating days. I've discovered they don't love me. Why? Because I don't think binging one day a week is A) a healthy mindset and B)I can ruin a week of good eating with 1 day of bad. Maybe when they said free they didn't mean Kettle Chips, a corn dog and a hot fudge sundae. Bottom line, I discovered through my meeting that a free day for me would be treating myself to a frozen yogurt or a glass of wine. Yes, you read correctly - "a" glass of wine. And my daily calorie intake has no room for any wine - whine!!!
I originally lost weight on Weight Watchers; love their program. Really, the best way to know what you are taking in calorie wise is to keep track. I'm a big fan of food journaling and love this site and am going to start using it today - http://www.myfitnesspal.com/. Weight watchers also kept me honest with a weekly weigh in, otherwise I would live in a fantasy world. You know the world where mysteriously your clothes are shrinking and you get really pissed at your dryer or dry cleaner for secretly sabotaging you. I make myself get on the scale once a week (of course only completely naked after a serious workout before food).
I don't take a vitamin, but my counselor did suggest adding a calcium supplement with vitamin D. I'm going to check into that at Walmart. I'll let you know what I find out.
So this is my sample day of healthy eating and within my calories to maintain my current weight (keep in mind this is with 1.5 hours of daily exercise):
Wake up - coffee and 1/2 banana
Breakfast - 1/2 cup of Oatmeal made w/1 c light vanilla soy milk w/little bit of raisins and almonds
Mid morning snack - Whey protein shake w/fruit, plain yogurt
Lunch - Zone bar if on the run or turkey sandwich
Snack - fruit or yogurt
Dinner - protein, carb and veggie (normal serving sizes)
I have been feeling a lot better having smaller meals more frequently. I definitely try to think ahead and be prepared if I'm going to be out that I have something to snack on with me. And yes, I am within my healthy weight/body fat %'s, but it is a battle. We're all going to fall off the wagon sometimes. I do frequently. But I'm determined to continue to fight - join me!
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Hershey Park Happy
Amusement Parks are a very interesting slice of Americana. We went to Hershey Park this past Saturday. Lots of fun had by all. It is very clean. There is a wide array of rides which is great for a group with a ride range of ages. Small world; we actually ran into friends, another family from Cary on a roller coaster line.
I knew eating healthy was going to be a challenge. Not necessarily because there wasn't anything healthy to choice from but because I love junk food. Ahhhh, and it was so good. Started off with a chicken panini. Had good intentions at this point - 3 hours into the park; will power still in tact. Then I glanced up at the sign for Homemade Kettle Chips; are you kidding me? Well, surely it couldn't hurt if we got a small bag to share with our group of 8. That would have been valid thinking if Francine or I would have let anyone else get their hand in the bag; no chance. I could feel my body swelling with the massive sodium intake. The plan was to end the night with ice cream. My favorite is a hot fudge sundae. I mean if I'm in - I'm in. Well, we were all kind of hungry so we had corn dogs first then the sundaes. Yum and Yum.
The good news is yesterday was a new day and I stopped the bad eating and continued on with my normal daily plan of eating healthy. The trick for me is to not keep going in the downward spiral. I did it. Join me!
I knew eating healthy was going to be a challenge. Not necessarily because there wasn't anything healthy to choice from but because I love junk food. Ahhhh, and it was so good. Started off with a chicken panini. Had good intentions at this point - 3 hours into the park; will power still in tact. Then I glanced up at the sign for Homemade Kettle Chips; are you kidding me? Well, surely it couldn't hurt if we got a small bag to share with our group of 8. That would have been valid thinking if Francine or I would have let anyone else get their hand in the bag; no chance. I could feel my body swelling with the massive sodium intake. The plan was to end the night with ice cream. My favorite is a hot fudge sundae. I mean if I'm in - I'm in. Well, we were all kind of hungry so we had corn dogs first then the sundaes. Yum and Yum.
The good news is yesterday was a new day and I stopped the bad eating and continued on with my normal daily plan of eating healthy. The trick for me is to not keep going in the downward spiral. I did it. Join me!
Monday, June 13, 2011
For My Mom and Friends
Wow, what an amazing experience Saturday's Susan B Komen Race For the Cure in the Triangle was for me, the people I shared the experience with and I'm sure the other 25,000 participants. I was especially proud to be a Prestonwood Member and part of the Pretty in Pink Team. Thank you to Ginny Weant and everyone that made that happen. It was hard to stay together with so many people for any period of time, but it was comforting knowing we were participating in a good cause together.
I'm so lucky to have such strong women in my life. My mom battled and survived breast cancer back in the early 80's. I feel like she did it alone. I'm sure she had help from her friends, but they would have all been swamped with their own families at the time. I was the oldest and at the time a self absorbed college student I'm sure. Her mother had already passed away. You would never know to this day if she struggled at all. She always had a brave face. She was always worried more about us. I pray I can be that strong when I need to be. My two tennis friends at Prestonwood are equally as honorable. Liz Fenton ran her first road race on Saturday and I saw nothing but shear joy on her face all morning to just be healthy and among such amazing people. Jen Newnan, I don't know as well; but she ran it and from what I understand she hasn't let breast cancer slow her down. What great role models.
I did the competitive run at 7am. Came in 17th out of 201 women ages 45-49. Not bad for an "old broad", I can hear my dad say. My daughter joined me for the walk at 8:45 (thanks to Kristy, busy mom of 4 for giving her a ride). I think I accomplished two things with Francine Saturday morning; #1 - we got to exercise together (always good) and #2 - she got to see an amazing show of grace and gratitude, she got to see the world is a bigger place than the Preston pool in her bikini with her friends, and she got to see it's good to give.
Time to sign up for a run I say for continued motivation for "Summer Training". Think about the http://www.annas-angels.org/events-upc.html. It's the Anna's Angels run and it's going to be super fun with a Halloween theme because it's on Sunday, October 30. Join me!
I'm so lucky to have such strong women in my life. My mom battled and survived breast cancer back in the early 80's. I feel like she did it alone. I'm sure she had help from her friends, but they would have all been swamped with their own families at the time. I was the oldest and at the time a self absorbed college student I'm sure. Her mother had already passed away. You would never know to this day if she struggled at all. She always had a brave face. She was always worried more about us. I pray I can be that strong when I need to be. My two tennis friends at Prestonwood are equally as honorable. Liz Fenton ran her first road race on Saturday and I saw nothing but shear joy on her face all morning to just be healthy and among such amazing people. Jen Newnan, I don't know as well; but she ran it and from what I understand she hasn't let breast cancer slow her down. What great role models.
I did the competitive run at 7am. Came in 17th out of 201 women ages 45-49. Not bad for an "old broad", I can hear my dad say. My daughter joined me for the walk at 8:45 (thanks to Kristy, busy mom of 4 for giving her a ride). I think I accomplished two things with Francine Saturday morning; #1 - we got to exercise together (always good) and #2 - she got to see an amazing show of grace and gratitude, she got to see the world is a bigger place than the Preston pool in her bikini with her friends, and she got to see it's good to give.
Time to sign up for a run I say for continued motivation for "Summer Training". Think about the http://www.annas-angels.org/events-upc.html. It's the Anna's Angels run and it's going to be super fun with a Halloween theme because it's on Sunday, October 30. Join me!
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Get Out of the Rut
You're not going to believe this, but I kind of like my dog, yes - Daisy. Although, she just let out a loud bark at 6:20 am and that may land her quickly back on my bad list. I get into bad parenting ruts with her. I was letting her dictate how things were going to be. I have taken back the reins and things are going so much better. Total side bar: someone hid her shock collar (Patrick?). I've realized how easy it is to get into a bad rut, but how easy it is to also get out! It's all about recognizing the rut for what it is....
Daisy is a 56 lb black Standard Poodle. She adores me and pretty much me only. My twin teenage boys have tortured her in little annoying ways for years. Of course, they have personally tried Daisy's shock collar on each other to see how that feels (brilliant!). They used to put the electric fence collar on and push each other through to see how that felt. And you wonder why I like a little glass of chardonnay on a regular basis? Daisy retaliates with peeing in the boy's rooms or the third floor (which is pretty much their domain). It was really grossing me out. She also has a very weak stomach and I think we have previously established she acts like a goat with regards to eating many things dog shouldn't (example: tampons). So she's a puker which can also lead to loose stool as you might imagine. Sorry to be so graphic, but I just need you to feel a little of my pain of what I have had to clean up.
Last week we got new carpets. Last week we made some big Daisy changes. We gated off the third floor so she couldn't get up there. Previously, we had a gate blocking the 2nd floor, but she would nip at the kids leaping that gate because it seemed like a game and they didn't try to deter her. The gate was always falling down, tearing up the wall, etc. Anyway, we also started seriously crating her. The crate was in the garage basically being unused. After 2 days last week she got a little sick and I realized it was too hot for her, so I brought the crate into the dining room. Not my first choice for aesthetic reasons, but I can live with it rather than her having free roam of my newly carpeted house. So the rule is the last person in the house before leaving takes her out and then puts her in the crate. The first person in takes her out of crate and takes her outside. This I know must seem very simple. It is. And it's working beautifully.
We used to have her water bowl in the kitchen. She is a very messy drinker and would somehow splash water every time she would drink it, sometimes she almost seemed to be trying to swim in her water bowl. We had hard wood floors. They didn't do well with the constant splash of water. We never moved it. I have no idea why. So, as many of you know last summer my new refrigerator leaked and caused extensive kitchen damage. We had our hardwoods redone. We moved her water dish into the tiled laundry room. What an epiphany!
The thing is - I think we do things in daily life and we know they aren't right but once the damage is done we just continue. Or we just keep doing the same action not thinking about why or what would be better. We don't stop the action - bad reaction behaviour. Maybe it requires a new purchase to see how to make the change. That's why I think we have to always be trying new things to motivate us exercise wise. You never know what you might really like unless you try it. And maybe it requires a new outfit to really get you motivated. I'm going to try to be more conscious of my behaviour that could be more positive for myself and others. I'm going to really be in the moment and not afraid to stop a negative action. Join me!
Daisy is a 56 lb black Standard Poodle. She adores me and pretty much me only. My twin teenage boys have tortured her in little annoying ways for years. Of course, they have personally tried Daisy's shock collar on each other to see how that feels (brilliant!). They used to put the electric fence collar on and push each other through to see how that felt. And you wonder why I like a little glass of chardonnay on a regular basis? Daisy retaliates with peeing in the boy's rooms or the third floor (which is pretty much their domain). It was really grossing me out. She also has a very weak stomach and I think we have previously established she acts like a goat with regards to eating many things dog shouldn't (example: tampons). So she's a puker which can also lead to loose stool as you might imagine. Sorry to be so graphic, but I just need you to feel a little of my pain of what I have had to clean up.
Last week we got new carpets. Last week we made some big Daisy changes. We gated off the third floor so she couldn't get up there. Previously, we had a gate blocking the 2nd floor, but she would nip at the kids leaping that gate because it seemed like a game and they didn't try to deter her. The gate was always falling down, tearing up the wall, etc. Anyway, we also started seriously crating her. The crate was in the garage basically being unused. After 2 days last week she got a little sick and I realized it was too hot for her, so I brought the crate into the dining room. Not my first choice for aesthetic reasons, but I can live with it rather than her having free roam of my newly carpeted house. So the rule is the last person in the house before leaving takes her out and then puts her in the crate. The first person in takes her out of crate and takes her outside. This I know must seem very simple. It is. And it's working beautifully.
We used to have her water bowl in the kitchen. She is a very messy drinker and would somehow splash water every time she would drink it, sometimes she almost seemed to be trying to swim in her water bowl. We had hard wood floors. They didn't do well with the constant splash of water. We never moved it. I have no idea why. So, as many of you know last summer my new refrigerator leaked and caused extensive kitchen damage. We had our hardwoods redone. We moved her water dish into the tiled laundry room. What an epiphany!
The thing is - I think we do things in daily life and we know they aren't right but once the damage is done we just continue. Or we just keep doing the same action not thinking about why or what would be better. We don't stop the action - bad reaction behaviour. Maybe it requires a new purchase to see how to make the change. That's why I think we have to always be trying new things to motivate us exercise wise. You never know what you might really like unless you try it. And maybe it requires a new outfit to really get you motivated. I'm going to try to be more conscious of my behaviour that could be more positive for myself and others. I'm going to really be in the moment and not afraid to stop a negative action. Join me!
Friday, May 27, 2011
Staycation
Happy Memorial Day Weekend. This is usually a camping weekend for the Stylski's. Last year we went to the NC mountains, camped and ziplined. Great fun; lots of work for me. We had to take our tent down in the rain and have a few broken poles. Still haven't ordered replacements. Decided to stay home this long weekend. Ahhhh, a "staycation". I've been looking forward to it all week.
So my 3 teenagers and I will be at the same pool where I'm sure they will be avoiding me like the plague. They can run, but they can't hide. I still have a few tricks up my sleeve. I love doing diving board acrobatics. Since I've given up the keratin (hair straightening) process, I can totally indulge in embarrassing my children with acting like a child myself. I might even try the cannonball where you see if you can splash the lifeguard.
It's okay to let the inner child out every once in a while. It makes you feel young and silly. This weekend is definitely about enjoying life and setting aside a moment to appreciate those who lost their lives to ensure that we can live a beautiful one. Thank you to all our veterans. Join me in giving thanks and living life to the fullest!
So my 3 teenagers and I will be at the same pool where I'm sure they will be avoiding me like the plague. They can run, but they can't hide. I still have a few tricks up my sleeve. I love doing diving board acrobatics. Since I've given up the keratin (hair straightening) process, I can totally indulge in embarrassing my children with acting like a child myself. I might even try the cannonball where you see if you can splash the lifeguard.
It's okay to let the inner child out every once in a while. It makes you feel young and silly. This weekend is definitely about enjoying life and setting aside a moment to appreciate those who lost their lives to ensure that we can live a beautiful one. Thank you to all our veterans. Join me in giving thanks and living life to the fullest!
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Nice Guys Do Finish First ...and Second
I'm not sure who's going to win tonight on American Idol's Grand Finale, but I do know this, I'm proud to say that I live in the same state as Scotty McCreary. What a seemingly nice teenage boy! And Lauren Alaina seems pretty stand up herself. They both seem humble about their amazing singing talent and never talked back to the judges. Hello, Randy Jackson, J Lo, and Steve Tyler! Whether you like them or not they all have had very successful careers in the music business. They should be revered as authorities.
My boys thought Hayley was hot! Hot maybe, but she definitely had some sass to her. They had to bleep out some of her expletives at times. I didn't like her attitude. She wasn't humble. She looked angry and sort of flippant if someone tried to give her criticism. All in all, I found her a good example of what I don't like in some kids; their total lack of respect for adult authority.
Let's talk Dancing With The Stars too! Hines Ward won last night. He seems like a stand up guy. What a great dancer he turned out to be and so respectful at all times. He took the competition seriously, was good at it and had a good time. Seems like good role modeling to me. Kirstie Alley came in second and Chelsea Kane came in third. I think that got reversed, but doesn't really matter in the end. They all worked hard and performed well.
I haven't got to watch my DVR'd Biggest Loser. Can't wait. What an amazing transformation that is ....what dedication and perseverance. I find that show inspiring. Three ladies lost 100 lbs. each. They worked hard and it paid off.
This all brings me to "Spring Training". What a roller coaster for me. I'm doing really well with work outs right now and have given up cocktails completely (8 days straight). I started journaling for real on Monday. Journaling is amazing if you haven't tried it. The first meal out of the gate, I found out that I was having 2x the calories I originally thought just buy reading the label. I was going for the 2 packs of Irish Oatmeal on purpose because they were only 100 calories each. Looked at the front of the container of the Almond milk and it said 90 calories per serving. Assumed wrongly that meant 8 oz. When I looked at the real label information it was only 4 oz. Good example of how we don't realize calories we take it and checking portion sizes etc is always a good idea.
"Spring Training" is about to turn into "Summer Training". Hope you are putting your best foot forward. In the words of Randy Jackson, American Idol judge, "I'm in it to win it"; join me!
PS: I do think Lauren was a little better last night, but thought the judges kind of came out of the blue pushing her to win. Scotty was better all season long. That's just my opinion!
My boys thought Hayley was hot! Hot maybe, but she definitely had some sass to her. They had to bleep out some of her expletives at times. I didn't like her attitude. She wasn't humble. She looked angry and sort of flippant if someone tried to give her criticism. All in all, I found her a good example of what I don't like in some kids; their total lack of respect for adult authority.
Let's talk Dancing With The Stars too! Hines Ward won last night. He seems like a stand up guy. What a great dancer he turned out to be and so respectful at all times. He took the competition seriously, was good at it and had a good time. Seems like good role modeling to me. Kirstie Alley came in second and Chelsea Kane came in third. I think that got reversed, but doesn't really matter in the end. They all worked hard and performed well.
I haven't got to watch my DVR'd Biggest Loser. Can't wait. What an amazing transformation that is ....what dedication and perseverance. I find that show inspiring. Three ladies lost 100 lbs. each. They worked hard and it paid off.
This all brings me to "Spring Training". What a roller coaster for me. I'm doing really well with work outs right now and have given up cocktails completely (8 days straight). I started journaling for real on Monday. Journaling is amazing if you haven't tried it. The first meal out of the gate, I found out that I was having 2x the calories I originally thought just buy reading the label. I was going for the 2 packs of Irish Oatmeal on purpose because they were only 100 calories each. Looked at the front of the container of the Almond milk and it said 90 calories per serving. Assumed wrongly that meant 8 oz. When I looked at the real label information it was only 4 oz. Good example of how we don't realize calories we take it and checking portion sizes etc is always a good idea.
"Spring Training" is about to turn into "Summer Training". Hope you are putting your best foot forward. In the words of Randy Jackson, American Idol judge, "I'm in it to win it"; join me!
PS: I do think Lauren was a little better last night, but thought the judges kind of came out of the blue pushing her to win. Scotty was better all season long. That's just my opinion!
Saturday, May 21, 2011
"Ladies Only"
I wish I had seen the sign "Ladies Only" yesterday at http://www.trianglesalon.com/ Chandni's Spa and Salon. Now, I have been going there for a few years since a friend recommended trying "eyebrow threading". Eyebrow threading is awesome! I love it. Eyebrow threading is only $7. It doesn't last quite as long as waxing. I don't think it's painful; it feels weird. The good news, it doesn't pull your eye skin which can stretch over time and leave you with saggy eyelids; total bonus. These ladies know what they are doing. If you haven't tried it; grab a girlfriend and try it!
Well, let me say they also offer waxing services (not for eyebrows). You know summer waxing needs....So, I had my 13 year old at the ENT Doctor yesterday for his snoring. Turns out his tonsils are too big. Sometime soon, he's going to have them out. The Dr and I were laughing about how guys all snore eventually anyway and at least my son's future wife wouldn't be living in a fantasy world if he snored right off the bat. So as previously discussed; teenager/parent relationships are all about a lot of ying and yang. I say, "Nolan, I need to run a little errand and there's a bakery right next door you could get a cookie or something". He has a little hissy and demands to know what I'm up to. I acquiesce and tell him about hitting the pool this weekend and a little something I need to take care of. He thought it was great that I had given full disclosure. Me, I'm not so sure. Sure enough, he hung out in Chandni's with a funny little smirk on his face eating his scoop of ice cream (Mexican Bakery moved closer to DMV in Cary; fyi).
I come out to reception area (using that phrase very loosely) post waxing. There's a lady checking out that repeatedly asks the owner, "isn't there a "Ladies Only" sign somewhere here?" Really!?? I have to say, I never noticed it; but sure enough big as life on the outside of the big picture window it reads loud and clear, "Ladies Only". My 13 year old boys giggles. He thought the whole thing was very enlightening. Well, it's good to bond over life's little things right? Okay, I won't do it again.
The end purpose of this story is to say if you haven't tried "threading"; do it; very fun. And if you are thinking about a bathing suit anytime soon; take a good look in the mirror first. There's really nothing worse than someone who forgot to pay attention to that little summer beauty necessity (well, for them not necessarily for me). I know all my young friends are saying, "I got laser hair removal". Great for you. If I was younger, I would to. Join me on getting ready for summer; it's right around the corner!!
Well, let me say they also offer waxing services (not for eyebrows). You know summer waxing needs....So, I had my 13 year old at the ENT Doctor yesterday for his snoring. Turns out his tonsils are too big. Sometime soon, he's going to have them out. The Dr and I were laughing about how guys all snore eventually anyway and at least my son's future wife wouldn't be living in a fantasy world if he snored right off the bat. So as previously discussed; teenager/parent relationships are all about a lot of ying and yang. I say, "Nolan, I need to run a little errand and there's a bakery right next door you could get a cookie or something". He has a little hissy and demands to know what I'm up to. I acquiesce and tell him about hitting the pool this weekend and a little something I need to take care of. He thought it was great that I had given full disclosure. Me, I'm not so sure. Sure enough, he hung out in Chandni's with a funny little smirk on his face eating his scoop of ice cream (Mexican Bakery moved closer to DMV in Cary; fyi).
I come out to reception area (using that phrase very loosely) post waxing. There's a lady checking out that repeatedly asks the owner, "isn't there a "Ladies Only" sign somewhere here?" Really!?? I have to say, I never noticed it; but sure enough big as life on the outside of the big picture window it reads loud and clear, "Ladies Only". My 13 year old boys giggles. He thought the whole thing was very enlightening. Well, it's good to bond over life's little things right? Okay, I won't do it again.
The end purpose of this story is to say if you haven't tried "threading"; do it; very fun. And if you are thinking about a bathing suit anytime soon; take a good look in the mirror first. There's really nothing worse than someone who forgot to pay attention to that little summer beauty necessity (well, for them not necessarily for me). I know all my young friends are saying, "I got laser hair removal". Great for you. If I was younger, I would to. Join me on getting ready for summer; it's right around the corner!!
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Just Be Happy!
As you all probably know or may of guessed, I'm a stay at home mom. This job has served me well. I'm very lucky. But do I think it was the right decision, the only decision, the best decision?...I wish I knew and there's a different answer for each of those questions. The conflict between working moms and non working moms seems so silly to me. It stems from jealousy and it goes both ways. Why can't we just all get a long and figure out the best way to be happy and healthy for ourselves and our families. The grass just always looks greener....
Ah, my working days....how I long for them now on a boring day. And then, I hear the voice of the working girl, "boring day, I wish". Yea, yea...and the fight goes on. I'm trying different career ideas out. I feel like it's so hard to be honest with how I feel about my life because anything I say will be considered whining. I'm not whining. I save that for body aches and muscle pulls. I'm just introspective. I'm thinking about what advice I want to give my daughter later in life. As a see it today, this is my advice for her....keep your hand in something that you're passionate about and keep a positive attitude. There's no right or wrong decision. No decision has to be permanent (unless you don't use birth control and then...that's another blog for a different day).
So working ladies let me clue you in to what I'm green with envy about...you make money which gives you power, independence and a voice. Wow, that is really personal for me to say, but it's really how I see it. Anything else that I come up with I can shoot down myself. Lot's of times, I'll have dreamt of lunches, meetings with professional people, fun work trips and then it gets shut down by "I work with idiots, I don't get a lunch, nothing was accomplished in today's 3 hour meeting," and that ruins my image completely. Again, it's about living in reality and not getting caught up in the fantasy of something.
So yes, today I'm going to work out, go grocery shopping, make beds, do some wash, make dinner, love up my family and be freakin happy with what I have and not think about what I could/would/should have; join me!!
Ah, my working days....how I long for them now on a boring day. And then, I hear the voice of the working girl, "boring day, I wish". Yea, yea...and the fight goes on. I'm trying different career ideas out. I feel like it's so hard to be honest with how I feel about my life because anything I say will be considered whining. I'm not whining. I save that for body aches and muscle pulls. I'm just introspective. I'm thinking about what advice I want to give my daughter later in life. As a see it today, this is my advice for her....keep your hand in something that you're passionate about and keep a positive attitude. There's no right or wrong decision. No decision has to be permanent (unless you don't use birth control and then...that's another blog for a different day).
So working ladies let me clue you in to what I'm green with envy about...you make money which gives you power, independence and a voice. Wow, that is really personal for me to say, but it's really how I see it. Anything else that I come up with I can shoot down myself. Lot's of times, I'll have dreamt of lunches, meetings with professional people, fun work trips and then it gets shut down by "I work with idiots, I don't get a lunch, nothing was accomplished in today's 3 hour meeting," and that ruins my image completely. Again, it's about living in reality and not getting caught up in the fantasy of something.
So yes, today I'm going to work out, go grocery shopping, make beds, do some wash, make dinner, love up my family and be freakin happy with what I have and not think about what I could/would/should have; join me!!
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
My Best Beauty Bets
I love beauty products. I was so excited when my "InStyle" 150 Best Beauty Buys issue showed up at my house recently. I have a friend who worked in the business who swears it's all fixed. She swears there's a salesperson who's responsible for selling a beauty product who wines and dines the "InStyle" Beauty Editor and bing; the product is published as the best beauty product. I can't believe it. Say it ain't so........
One of my 3 sisters is a "hair stylist"; I think that's the politically correct professional label these days. I'm so jealous of her talent and ability to work in the beauty business every day. We've always been beauty product junkies. My mom wouldn't let us use drugstore make up. When we were old enough to wear make up, my mom took us to the Clinique counter for a makeover. Now, let's be honest, I was sneaking this beautiful Robin's Egg Blue Maybelline eye shadow for a while until I got caught forgetting to wash it off before I got home. I can vividly remember borrowing it from a friend and applying in Home Economics class. The Clinique 3 Step cleaning was great then and their "Black Honey" lip gloss is still a classic favorite. I took my daughter to the Clinique counter just for tradition when she turned 13. She really wasn't impressed. "Mac" is cooler or really she's happy playing in the drugstore and since it's my wallet now, I say there's a lot of great and less expensive cosmetics in Walgreens!
My two favorite beauty places in Cary are these: I bought a http://www.livingsocial.com/ deal for a LED treatment at http://www.bloomskinspa.com/. Love this place and the line of products they use, "Eminence" is awesome! I'm not sure about the affects of the LED treatments, but I got a good deal and I have a few more treatments to go so we'll see. My other favorite beauty stop is http://www.tsiskin.com/. This is more of a clinical beauty stop, but they can do almost anything; Chemical Peels, Blue Light, Laser, Skin Cancer checks, Botox, etc. My teenagers even love it here because they have great Acne treatments that work!! I promise you won't be disappointed in either of these places.
As far as beauty products go, I do have a few personal faves that I can't help but rave about -
Face Skin Care - Obagi is the best treatment line. I'm enjoying "Eminence" http://www.eminenceorganics.com/ right now which is organic, natural, very mild and soothing. Honestly, cost wise, you can't go wrong with Cetaphil (available everywhere). I've never noticed any big difference between eye creams, face creams so have it. Unless, they're Obagi or prescription I think they just make us feel good.
Sun Care - Love "Banana Boat Baby Tear Free spf 50, Won't Sting Eyes, Hypoallergenic and Waterproof". This stuff is awesome. I can run, play tennis etc and it doesn't run in my contacts and make my vision blurry.
Skin Care - Any skin care would be good if I actually used it. I don't know about you guys, but I don't typically sit around spreading lotion on my body but.....my sister Megan turned me onto "Sephora's Extra Butter Body Lotion" and it is the bomb!! Love Bath and Body for body washes etc. but don't notice a big difference in line of body washes and scrubs.
Shampoo - curly haired friends check out http://www.devaconcepts.com/ (life changing). Kerastase is great; I agree with "In Style" here.
Gray Roots - http://www.clairol.com/niceneasy/roottouchup/index.jsp Go to between color appointments. Just found Rita Hazan spray to cover grays; http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P282611 awesome!
Make up - it's all fun! My recommendation: go with a friend for lunch and have a make over at any counter. So fun!! I do love Dior mascara.
Perfume - anything http://www.jomalone.com/ so yummy!
As far as the "In Style" Best Beauty Buys issue; I'm convinced that Jennifer Aniston and I have so much in common. Her beauty faves for "light" skin are right on and I'm enjoying a few new beauty purchases thanks to her suggestions. Silly- maybe; but fun; absolutely - it's never to late to teach and old dog new tricks right? So if you've used the same lipstick for years; it's time to get out and get a new one. And the good news is even if you're not feeling your slimmest; you can always find a lipstick that fits perfect; join me!
One of my 3 sisters is a "hair stylist"; I think that's the politically correct professional label these days. I'm so jealous of her talent and ability to work in the beauty business every day. We've always been beauty product junkies. My mom wouldn't let us use drugstore make up. When we were old enough to wear make up, my mom took us to the Clinique counter for a makeover. Now, let's be honest, I was sneaking this beautiful Robin's Egg Blue Maybelline eye shadow for a while until I got caught forgetting to wash it off before I got home. I can vividly remember borrowing it from a friend and applying in Home Economics class. The Clinique 3 Step cleaning was great then and their "Black Honey" lip gloss is still a classic favorite. I took my daughter to the Clinique counter just for tradition when she turned 13. She really wasn't impressed. "Mac" is cooler or really she's happy playing in the drugstore and since it's my wallet now, I say there's a lot of great and less expensive cosmetics in Walgreens!
My two favorite beauty places in Cary are these: I bought a http://www.livingsocial.com/ deal for a LED treatment at http://www.bloomskinspa.com/. Love this place and the line of products they use, "Eminence" is awesome! I'm not sure about the affects of the LED treatments, but I got a good deal and I have a few more treatments to go so we'll see. My other favorite beauty stop is http://www.tsiskin.com/. This is more of a clinical beauty stop, but they can do almost anything; Chemical Peels, Blue Light, Laser, Skin Cancer checks, Botox, etc. My teenagers even love it here because they have great Acne treatments that work!! I promise you won't be disappointed in either of these places.
As far as beauty products go, I do have a few personal faves that I can't help but rave about -
Face Skin Care - Obagi is the best treatment line. I'm enjoying "Eminence" http://www.eminenceorganics.com/ right now which is organic, natural, very mild and soothing. Honestly, cost wise, you can't go wrong with Cetaphil (available everywhere). I've never noticed any big difference between eye creams, face creams so have it. Unless, they're Obagi or prescription I think they just make us feel good.
Sun Care - Love "Banana Boat Baby Tear Free spf 50, Won't Sting Eyes, Hypoallergenic and Waterproof". This stuff is awesome. I can run, play tennis etc and it doesn't run in my contacts and make my vision blurry.
Skin Care - Any skin care would be good if I actually used it. I don't know about you guys, but I don't typically sit around spreading lotion on my body but.....my sister Megan turned me onto "Sephora's Extra Butter Body Lotion" and it is the bomb!! Love Bath and Body for body washes etc. but don't notice a big difference in line of body washes and scrubs.
Shampoo - curly haired friends check out http://www.devaconcepts.com/ (life changing). Kerastase is great; I agree with "In Style" here.
Gray Roots - http://www.clairol.com/niceneasy/roottouchup/index.jsp Go to between color appointments. Just found Rita Hazan spray to cover grays; http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P282611 awesome!
Make up - it's all fun! My recommendation: go with a friend for lunch and have a make over at any counter. So fun!! I do love Dior mascara.
Perfume - anything http://www.jomalone.com/ so yummy!
As far as the "In Style" Best Beauty Buys issue; I'm convinced that Jennifer Aniston and I have so much in common. Her beauty faves for "light" skin are right on and I'm enjoying a few new beauty purchases thanks to her suggestions. Silly- maybe; but fun; absolutely - it's never to late to teach and old dog new tricks right? So if you've used the same lipstick for years; it's time to get out and get a new one. And the good news is even if you're not feeling your slimmest; you can always find a lipstick that fits perfect; join me!
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Checking In
How is it going? Have you made any positive changes in your "Spring Training" lifestyle? How do you feel? Your friends want to know. Talk about it! Saying aloud how you physically feel and what you are doing helps your thoughts crystalize and you gain other people's valuable perspective. I really believe that. Stay connected!!
I have really been trying to make some eating changes. I read a bunch of books on healthy eating and exercise in the past week. Love Jackie Warner's, "This Is Why You're Fat (And How To Get Thin Forever)". I know I'm not fat, but this book has a lot of good information in it. For now, I'm taking away that I need to have a cup of oatmeal, 2 eggs, a Whey Protein shake, 2 servings of fruit and lots of veggies everyday. This is easy, simple and not expensive and as my tennis partner said yesterday, "if I ate all that I wouldn't need to eat anything else all day". I think that is the point. I definitely have noticed a huge difference in my appetite after a bowl of oatmeal. I am satisfied and it last a long time. The total epiphany for me is the great thing about serving healthy food is you don't have to worry so much about portion control. Last night, I made the biggest salad from my produce box http://www.theproducebox.com/ . It takes so much chewing to get through a big salad, it really is very satisfying!!
Took my 15 year old daughter and two friends to see Plain White T's last night at Lincoln Theatre in Raleigh. She is not going to be pretty this morning since we didn't get home until midnight. I wouldn't normally do a concert on a school night, but is was something that we both wanted to do together. I figure there won't be a million of those opportunities with a teenager; so I siezed the moment. Ahhhh "sieze the moment". Don't you love that expression? Let's sieze today; I'm starting my food journal (over for the 10th time); join me!!
I have really been trying to make some eating changes. I read a bunch of books on healthy eating and exercise in the past week. Love Jackie Warner's, "This Is Why You're Fat (And How To Get Thin Forever)". I know I'm not fat, but this book has a lot of good information in it. For now, I'm taking away that I need to have a cup of oatmeal, 2 eggs, a Whey Protein shake, 2 servings of fruit and lots of veggies everyday. This is easy, simple and not expensive and as my tennis partner said yesterday, "if I ate all that I wouldn't need to eat anything else all day". I think that is the point. I definitely have noticed a huge difference in my appetite after a bowl of oatmeal. I am satisfied and it last a long time. The total epiphany for me is the great thing about serving healthy food is you don't have to worry so much about portion control. Last night, I made the biggest salad from my produce box http://www.theproducebox.com/ . It takes so much chewing to get through a big salad, it really is very satisfying!!
Took my 15 year old daughter and two friends to see Plain White T's last night at Lincoln Theatre in Raleigh. She is not going to be pretty this morning since we didn't get home until midnight. I wouldn't normally do a concert on a school night, but is was something that we both wanted to do together. I figure there won't be a million of those opportunities with a teenager; so I siezed the moment. Ahhhh "sieze the moment". Don't you love that expression? Let's sieze today; I'm starting my food journal (over for the 10th time); join me!!
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Me and my car
I'm not a good driver. There - they say the first step to acceptance and solution is to admit the problem. It may be genetic though....
My daughter is in the process of getting her permit. She's taken Driver's Education at school. She studied for her Learner's Permit. She wants to start practicing driving. I think I want to throw up. I know I can't be the one to help her. I am very clear on my strengths and weaknesses. I'm stalling her, but I know her driving is inevitable. We spent 3 hours in DMV yesterday. She failed her first attempt at the permit test. I was giddy. She was sad. So goes the ying and yang of parent/teenager life.
I love my car and can't imagine a new one. It was used when I got it. It now has over 170,000. I can't see buying a new car with no dings; especially with 3 teenagers. Dings give my car character. I never believed you are what you drive. Maybe in my case I am. Maybe we all are. I've got a few dings. They make us interesting. It's rough having a back seat driver. It's either a muzzle or I need to work on my driving skills and be a better driving role model for my future driver; join me!
My daughter is in the process of getting her permit. She's taken Driver's Education at school. She studied for her Learner's Permit. She wants to start practicing driving. I think I want to throw up. I know I can't be the one to help her. I am very clear on my strengths and weaknesses. I'm stalling her, but I know her driving is inevitable. We spent 3 hours in DMV yesterday. She failed her first attempt at the permit test. I was giddy. She was sad. So goes the ying and yang of parent/teenager life.
I love my car and can't imagine a new one. It was used when I got it. It now has over 170,000. I can't see buying a new car with no dings; especially with 3 teenagers. Dings give my car character. I never believed you are what you drive. Maybe in my case I am. Maybe we all are. I've got a few dings. They make us interesting. It's rough having a back seat driver. It's either a muzzle or I need to work on my driving skills and be a better driving role model for my future driver; join me!
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
The Rain Is Music To My Ears
Every year, in the spring I get excited about planting. The trouble is holding onto that excitement after months of daily watering. I woke up to the sound of rain this morning. It was music to my ears.
This weekend, I went out with my daughter and spent my annual $100 on plants and flowers (followed up by a little more at a different location). My family thinks that this is a huge waste. They call me "brown thumb". In my defense, if you have ever dealt with trying to grow things in this Carolina clay, not dirt, you can commiserate with my, in general, lack of success.
When the kids were really little, I was very ambitious and actually built my own garden in the back of the house with official wood borders and the requisite marigolds to supposedly ward off the bunnies. We would have to carry buckets of water because the hose didn't reach the garden. I definitely learned my lesson. Anything planted in the ground needs easy access to water without the need for child labor. I have to say it must have been a mild summer because that garden was relatively successful in that plants did live and what lived was enjoyed immensely by the bunnies.
The problem with flowers for me is the watering needs when you go out of town which in the summer months tends to be relatively often. One day of no water in July in North Carolina and most likely your plants are toast. It's really an imposition to ask someone to water your flowers daily. I guess the answer would be to pay, I could probably get a volunteer that way.
So this year, I cheated a little. I bought pots and stuck them in my pots. I figure I could then transport them to someone's house to be watered. But what about my beautiful herb/vegetable garden? It's so pretty and full of life right now. I put really good dirt in there this year (including a little manure per my dad's recommendation). I have such good intentions. My mom says, a thriving rosemary bush means the lady is the Queen of the house. I don't know about that but that's the only thing that has survived for years in my garden.
So today I'll take a break from watering and admire my handiwork and hope that I'm enjoying a fresh tomato salad in August that's from my little garden. I really don't know if you should join me....
This weekend, I went out with my daughter and spent my annual $100 on plants and flowers (followed up by a little more at a different location). My family thinks that this is a huge waste. They call me "brown thumb". In my defense, if you have ever dealt with trying to grow things in this Carolina clay, not dirt, you can commiserate with my, in general, lack of success.
When the kids were really little, I was very ambitious and actually built my own garden in the back of the house with official wood borders and the requisite marigolds to supposedly ward off the bunnies. We would have to carry buckets of water because the hose didn't reach the garden. I definitely learned my lesson. Anything planted in the ground needs easy access to water without the need for child labor. I have to say it must have been a mild summer because that garden was relatively successful in that plants did live and what lived was enjoyed immensely by the bunnies.
The problem with flowers for me is the watering needs when you go out of town which in the summer months tends to be relatively often. One day of no water in July in North Carolina and most likely your plants are toast. It's really an imposition to ask someone to water your flowers daily. I guess the answer would be to pay, I could probably get a volunteer that way.
So this year, I cheated a little. I bought pots and stuck them in my pots. I figure I could then transport them to someone's house to be watered. But what about my beautiful herb/vegetable garden? It's so pretty and full of life right now. I put really good dirt in there this year (including a little manure per my dad's recommendation). I have such good intentions. My mom says, a thriving rosemary bush means the lady is the Queen of the house. I don't know about that but that's the only thing that has survived for years in my garden.
So today I'll take a break from watering and admire my handiwork and hope that I'm enjoying a fresh tomato salad in August that's from my little garden. I really don't know if you should join me....
Monday, May 2, 2011
The Triathlon Story
Saturday was the day of my first Triathlon. Great day; loved it! I'll start off by admitting I was lost trying to find Tri location. Keep in mind this is at 6:15 am. If you know me well, you know that I'm directionally challenged. I had directions from Google Maps. On the way, I decided I didn't like their directions and started going my own way. Pulled over at first gas station when I felt like I was close and they gave me directions to similarly named athletic club, but not correct one; whoops! After arriving there and deciding that wasn't the right place went into second gas station. Got great directions (from 2 old country boys). These new directions didn't have street names for the most part and included going down a unnamed dirt road. I past a few deer and saw the sunrise. It was a beautiful car ride and finally arrived where I was supposed to be my typical 10 minutes late.
Great idea to sign up for Triathlon with 25 year old fitness instructor and friend. Worst idea ever: putting the same expected swim time as 25 year old fitness instructor. They put you in numerical order based on estimated swim time. I was number 46 out of 257. Privately, in my head, I was in total panic mode. We had not swam in 6 weeks due to pool fiasco and other assorted reasons. I knew I had planned to just muscle my way through, but hadn't anticipated 200 people watching me breast stroke (aka doggy paddle, aka jog, aka basically just try to not drown). I couldn't breath after the first 2 laps. Really - I just couldn't catch my breath. Funny, I only got passed by number 47 (Liz, a professional Tri lady) and number 48 (a 36 year old male). My Tri buddy and I looked cute though because we were the only girls in swim suits (that's what I'm telling myself). Everyone else had on swim wear that you could bike and run in. Getting out of the pool was hilarious. I couldn't feel my legs. Did a very precarious fast walk to bike area. Had previously stated that the biking would be like "taking a walk in the park". I'm eating those words. I had only biked twice to train, but both times were a 25 mile course and I faired pretty well. This was only 14 miles, so I thought it would be a piece of cake. I enjoyed the bike part the best but saying it was easy is silly. One of the ladies (say number 67), tried to pass me on the bike ride. I'm sure she was thinking to herself, surely I can beat "doggy paddler". She was only a head of me for a little. After her husband and children cheered her on, I decided, "doggy paddler", was going to make her move. Getting off the bike to run is interesting. Again, your legs feel like jello, but you're so happy to be in the final stage. You know at this point you're going to make it. Running is my favorite thing to do, but this was the hardest 5k I've ever run. One foot in front of the other is what I kept telling myself. I refused to walk. I made it. I had a 33 year old tell me "she hopes she can kick ass like me when she's my age". That was a little hard to take. I didn't think I was that much older. Jeez. Having your age on your calf seems harsh at first. But since I beat that 33 year old, I'm okay with it now.
So good news - you can participate in Tri's as a relay team. You can even have fun names. My Tri buddy has a buddy who only wants to swim. She's 26. This could be the answer to my prayers. I've already named us, "The Kitten and The Cougar".
In the long run, we finished. My buddy got 3rd for her age group (awesome)! I finished 9 out of 12 for my age group and 158 out of 257. I feel really good about that. The 40-44 and 45-49 ladies competition was fierce.
There is nothing better than spending a beautiful day in an athletic competition. That is my opinion. I can't wait to do more. I'm doing the Race for the Cure in June with my daughter. Signed up for the Philadelphia half marathon in September. If all goes well, should be in the Cary City Ladies 4.0 Tennis playoffs in 2 weeks. I'm having fun. I felt great in my skinny jeans on Saturday night, another total bonus. This week, I'm going to enjoy this beautiful Spring weather and get some great workouts in. Have really been doing well cooking and eating healthier. I feel good; join me!!
BTW: My few pictures are on a Walgreens disk that is giving me huge fits on editing. I can't deal with it anymore so sorry for the boring pic and sideways one. I'll keep working on it!
Great idea to sign up for Triathlon with 25 year old fitness instructor and friend. Worst idea ever: putting the same expected swim time as 25 year old fitness instructor. They put you in numerical order based on estimated swim time. I was number 46 out of 257. Privately, in my head, I was in total panic mode. We had not swam in 6 weeks due to pool fiasco and other assorted reasons. I knew I had planned to just muscle my way through, but hadn't anticipated 200 people watching me breast stroke (aka doggy paddle, aka jog, aka basically just try to not drown). I couldn't breath after the first 2 laps. Really - I just couldn't catch my breath. Funny, I only got passed by number 47 (Liz, a professional Tri lady) and number 48 (a 36 year old male). My Tri buddy and I looked cute though because we were the only girls in swim suits (that's what I'm telling myself). Everyone else had on swim wear that you could bike and run in. Getting out of the pool was hilarious. I couldn't feel my legs. Did a very precarious fast walk to bike area. Had previously stated that the biking would be like "taking a walk in the park". I'm eating those words. I had only biked twice to train, but both times were a 25 mile course and I faired pretty well. This was only 14 miles, so I thought it would be a piece of cake. I enjoyed the bike part the best but saying it was easy is silly. One of the ladies (say number 67), tried to pass me on the bike ride. I'm sure she was thinking to herself, surely I can beat "doggy paddler". She was only a head of me for a little. After her husband and children cheered her on, I decided, "doggy paddler", was going to make her move. Getting off the bike to run is interesting. Again, your legs feel like jello, but you're so happy to be in the final stage. You know at this point you're going to make it. Running is my favorite thing to do, but this was the hardest 5k I've ever run. One foot in front of the other is what I kept telling myself. I refused to walk. I made it. I had a 33 year old tell me "she hopes she can kick ass like me when she's my age". That was a little hard to take. I didn't think I was that much older. Jeez. Having your age on your calf seems harsh at first. But since I beat that 33 year old, I'm okay with it now.
So good news - you can participate in Tri's as a relay team. You can even have fun names. My Tri buddy has a buddy who only wants to swim. She's 26. This could be the answer to my prayers. I've already named us, "The Kitten and The Cougar".
In the long run, we finished. My buddy got 3rd for her age group (awesome)! I finished 9 out of 12 for my age group and 158 out of 257. I feel really good about that. The 40-44 and 45-49 ladies competition was fierce.
There is nothing better than spending a beautiful day in an athletic competition. That is my opinion. I can't wait to do more. I'm doing the Race for the Cure in June with my daughter. Signed up for the Philadelphia half marathon in September. If all goes well, should be in the Cary City Ladies 4.0 Tennis playoffs in 2 weeks. I'm having fun. I felt great in my skinny jeans on Saturday night, another total bonus. This week, I'm going to enjoy this beautiful Spring weather and get some great workouts in. Have really been doing well cooking and eating healthier. I feel good; join me!!
BTW: My few pictures are on a Walgreens disk that is giving me huge fits on editing. I can't deal with it anymore so sorry for the boring pic and sideways one. I'll keep working on it!
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Changing Habits
"Spring Training" has provided me with a lot of personal introspection regarding my fitness goals and eating habits. I hope you have "joined me" in at least taking a look at how you're living and decisions we make on a daily basis on being active and making good food choices.
It's a struggle. If you work, I know finding the time to be active must be difficult, but not impossible. For me, it's about state of mind. If I'm not active my state of mind goes down the toilet. I need the endorphins. Signing up for races is a great way to stay motivated. I have my first Triathlon Saturday. I'm excited for the challenge. I signed up for a half marathon in Philadelphia in the fall. What fun that will be in my home town with my family. One of my boys is becoming a runner and he just may join me. That's the start of something. Being active with a teenager may just help keep them out of trouble (we'll see).
Eating wise, I've definitely had my ups and downs. I'm trying to change things up. I've introduced Soy and Almond milk in my home. Everyone likes it. I'm shocked. I do too. They're delicious. I've been making most meals with fish, chicken or just vegetarian. Everyone likes it. I'm shocked. I do too. I'm researching 5 small meals a day plans for myself. I've always been proud to be a 3 meal a day (no snacking) girl. I've really been trying since Monday to change that plan. Yesterday, I felt like it really worked for me. I never let myself get really hungry. I made some healthy snack choices. I didn't feel bloaty and tired. I managed to stay out of the cookie jar. I'm not going to pretend I didn't have a cocktail, I did and it was delicious.
Lots of fun things planned in the next few months that I want to be physically ready for...we're definitely in the home stretch for bathing suit season. It's never too late to make changes in life. I'm having fun making healthy changes; join me.
It's a struggle. If you work, I know finding the time to be active must be difficult, but not impossible. For me, it's about state of mind. If I'm not active my state of mind goes down the toilet. I need the endorphins. Signing up for races is a great way to stay motivated. I have my first Triathlon Saturday. I'm excited for the challenge. I signed up for a half marathon in Philadelphia in the fall. What fun that will be in my home town with my family. One of my boys is becoming a runner and he just may join me. That's the start of something. Being active with a teenager may just help keep them out of trouble (we'll see).
Eating wise, I've definitely had my ups and downs. I'm trying to change things up. I've introduced Soy and Almond milk in my home. Everyone likes it. I'm shocked. I do too. They're delicious. I've been making most meals with fish, chicken or just vegetarian. Everyone likes it. I'm shocked. I do too. I'm researching 5 small meals a day plans for myself. I've always been proud to be a 3 meal a day (no snacking) girl. I've really been trying since Monday to change that plan. Yesterday, I felt like it really worked for me. I never let myself get really hungry. I made some healthy snack choices. I didn't feel bloaty and tired. I managed to stay out of the cookie jar. I'm not going to pretend I didn't have a cocktail, I did and it was delicious.
Lots of fun things planned in the next few months that I want to be physically ready for...we're definitely in the home stretch for bathing suit season. It's never too late to make changes in life. I'm having fun making healthy changes; join me.
Monday, April 25, 2011
Sandestin (Gulf Shores, FL) - Great Spot
Early February, when planning my family's Spring Break trip, we all agreed we wanted something tropical. Checked out a lot of amazing places, but just couldn't pull the trigger on 5 $700 airfares and then 2 rooms (because of teenagers ages and sexes). I am rounding off and estimating, but the Atlantis in the Bahamas was going to cost at least $12,000 for a week. Good for you if this sounds reasonable; that's more than I want to spend to be on a beach for a week with my kids. After a lot of research, the best I could come up with that would be warm, not a bad car ride, and offer some different scenery was the west coast of Florida. It didn't fail to deliver.
Pretty water, great fishing (we caught enough for fish tacos and some to bring home), great beaches, and great (reasonable) restaurants. Our teenagers cooperated and in general acted happy to be with us. That made it all worth it.
We discovered a particularly good place called, "The Donut Hole". I have never had a better donut. Not part of "Spring Training" in anyway I know...bad, I was very bad. I'm not going to name names but I wouldn't suggest a "Red Velvet" donut before a fishing excursion and sea sickness ensues; just sayin; it wasn't pretty; not at all....
So, we're back....I have my first Triathlon on Saturday. I've had some great runs over vacation. I'm going to muster up a lot of false bravado on Saturday and push my way through the swim and bike ride. I can do it. I'm not getting on the scale today - no way. Was four donuts bad? Seriously, they melted in your mouth. I'm considering ordering the "Insanity" video and meal plan. Anyone else in? Back on track today, join me!
Pretty water, great fishing (we caught enough for fish tacos and some to bring home), great beaches, and great (reasonable) restaurants. Our teenagers cooperated and in general acted happy to be with us. That made it all worth it.
We discovered a particularly good place called, "The Donut Hole". I have never had a better donut. Not part of "Spring Training" in anyway I know...bad, I was very bad. I'm not going to name names but I wouldn't suggest a "Red Velvet" donut before a fishing excursion and sea sickness ensues; just sayin; it wasn't pretty; not at all....
So, we're back....I have my first Triathlon on Saturday. I've had some great runs over vacation. I'm going to muster up a lot of false bravado on Saturday and push my way through the swim and bike ride. I can do it. I'm not getting on the scale today - no way. Was four donuts bad? Seriously, they melted in your mouth. I'm considering ordering the "Insanity" video and meal plan. Anyone else in? Back on track today, join me!
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Vacation or Re Location
Ahhhh, Spring Break. For me, it's 80% vacation. Some would argue everyday is a vacation for me (to some extent true, but I'll only agree this may apply when my kids are in school). We're headed to Florida. We're driving: 6 hours one day; 6 hours the next. We're staying in a condo with a washer, dryer and kitchen. For a mom, that sounds like a blessing and a curse. My kids are old enough to pack their bags (will require some review). My kids are old enough to go into a restroom by themselves, wipe their own butt (total bonus) and hopefully remember to wash their hands. This may be my 80%!! My kids can feed themselves (still messy) and possibly clean up after themselves. Things are looking up everyday.
We vacation every summer with my family, my husband's mom, sister and kids. When my kids were little, this vacation was definitely a relocation. Not that it wasn't fun, but it was a lot of work. I watch my sister now with a 2, 4 and 7 year old and know that I've come a long way. First, there's the sleeping dilemma. A baby sleeping in the same room as a mom is a guaranteed no sleep vacation (which tends to make mama a little grumpy eventually). Then there's the 3 meals served and cleaned up plus snacks. At times, the service needs seem unending. Let's talk behavior. Kids are good and bad, vacation or no vacation, so the parenting demands don't go away; in fact they sometimes seem harder because you don't want your kids bad behavior to ruin someone else's vacation. But then you look at the kids having a blast on the beach, you review the different years in your head and you know it was all worth it. These are the memories you will relish when they are gone.
So today is packing day. Tons of wash to finish and put away. Then there's loading the car; for some reason this tends to be stressful. I think it may be because we're never sure we're going to fit it all in. Saturday afternoon, I'll have my feet in the sand and a cocktail in my hand and I won't even remember the work it took to get there. Of course, there's that little matter of the kitchen and who's cooking dinner - I guess that would be me - that's my 20% on duty. Sometimes it doesn't pay to be accomplished at something. But since I planned this vacation I guess I wouldn't have it any other way. Saturday may be the night to go out or get take out. Yes, Saturday is going to be a 100% vacation day for me; join me!!
We vacation every summer with my family, my husband's mom, sister and kids. When my kids were little, this vacation was definitely a relocation. Not that it wasn't fun, but it was a lot of work. I watch my sister now with a 2, 4 and 7 year old and know that I've come a long way. First, there's the sleeping dilemma. A baby sleeping in the same room as a mom is a guaranteed no sleep vacation (which tends to make mama a little grumpy eventually). Then there's the 3 meals served and cleaned up plus snacks. At times, the service needs seem unending. Let's talk behavior. Kids are good and bad, vacation or no vacation, so the parenting demands don't go away; in fact they sometimes seem harder because you don't want your kids bad behavior to ruin someone else's vacation. But then you look at the kids having a blast on the beach, you review the different years in your head and you know it was all worth it. These are the memories you will relish when they are gone.
So today is packing day. Tons of wash to finish and put away. Then there's loading the car; for some reason this tends to be stressful. I think it may be because we're never sure we're going to fit it all in. Saturday afternoon, I'll have my feet in the sand and a cocktail in my hand and I won't even remember the work it took to get there. Of course, there's that little matter of the kitchen and who's cooking dinner - I guess that would be me - that's my 20% on duty. Sometimes it doesn't pay to be accomplished at something. But since I planned this vacation I guess I wouldn't have it any other way. Saturday may be the night to go out or get take out. Yes, Saturday is going to be a 100% vacation day for me; join me!!
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Road Trip
Growing up in a large family, you're very familiar with road trips. Most vacations were taken by car. Car trips were what you could afford. Classic trips in the 70's were in a station wagon with no one strapped down. It was a free for all. At times, you were happy to get the "well" on the floor (there was a very hot piece of metal down there in the "well" you had to avoid; otherwise it was a good spot; the well was so deep in those old fashioned station wagons; you could really get comfy with a blanket and a pillow)!
My boys are on a year round school schedule. When they are off, I get an itch to get out of town. I can't help myself. Most times I am not able to just get up and go because of their activities. I've been missing in action recently because all of a sudden late last week, I realized they were off and we could go - so we did. It was one of those spontaneous trips that just couldn't have gone any better. Headed north on 95 later in the day Friday than usual for me and a road trip (cause I got a run in first). Made it to PA in record time. Delicious dinner and great family time. My kids really enjoy their mostly younger cousins. They brought a buddy with them who was a joy to have around and manages to keep the boys entertained and not fighting. Total bonus! Had some fabulous runs with running mate sister. Love the landscape of PA. Rolling hills, horses, stone houses, lots of greenery - just beautiful. No real agenda for the weekend; just enjoying each others company. Headed back south on Monday through DC. What a gorgeous day! We walked from Union Station to the White House. Spent some time people watching while sitting on a bench on The Mall. It was awesome. I have to say, normally I'm on a mission to get back and not dilly dally (it's a little scary being the only capable driver in my car on 95); but yesterday was different and special and definitely worth stopping. I regretted the 6p Wawa coffee as sleeping was a no go with that much caffeine late in the day, but at least we made it home safe.
My dream is to have a Winnebago and drive around our beautiful country and see it all. That will be an awesome road trip and one that I look forward to one of these days. But siezing the moment when it presents itself is good for now; join me!
My boys are on a year round school schedule. When they are off, I get an itch to get out of town. I can't help myself. Most times I am not able to just get up and go because of their activities. I've been missing in action recently because all of a sudden late last week, I realized they were off and we could go - so we did. It was one of those spontaneous trips that just couldn't have gone any better. Headed north on 95 later in the day Friday than usual for me and a road trip (cause I got a run in first). Made it to PA in record time. Delicious dinner and great family time. My kids really enjoy their mostly younger cousins. They brought a buddy with them who was a joy to have around and manages to keep the boys entertained and not fighting. Total bonus! Had some fabulous runs with running mate sister. Love the landscape of PA. Rolling hills, horses, stone houses, lots of greenery - just beautiful. No real agenda for the weekend; just enjoying each others company. Headed back south on Monday through DC. What a gorgeous day! We walked from Union Station to the White House. Spent some time people watching while sitting on a bench on The Mall. It was awesome. I have to say, normally I'm on a mission to get back and not dilly dally (it's a little scary being the only capable driver in my car on 95); but yesterday was different and special and definitely worth stopping. I regretted the 6p Wawa coffee as sleeping was a no go with that much caffeine late in the day, but at least we made it home safe.
My dream is to have a Winnebago and drive around our beautiful country and see it all. That will be an awesome road trip and one that I look forward to one of these days. But siezing the moment when it presents itself is good for now; join me!
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Honestly, I Want to Be Famous
I am not a poser. What you see is what you get. Yes, I have always had dreams of being famous. If you can be famous for a good ass (hello Kim Kardashian), surely, I have a chance. I'm optimistic, I'll come up with something. I started blogging because I love to entertain, I have a lot of opinions and I like to write. If I can make it 90 days, I can apply for sponsors. I could possibly become famous.
In 1990, I got married. We moved to Wichita Falls, Texas. My husband was a podiatrist in the Air Force. I sent a resume to every viable business in the directory that I got from the Wichita Falls Chamber of Commerce. I only heard from television and radio stations. I felt unbelievably lucky. I had dreams of being the next Barbara Walters. When I interviewed with the NBC affiliate (and my favorite boss ever), I got the job. When the Station Manager said, "where do you see yourself", I said, "on television". He said, "I see you in sales." I said, "ok". Best decision ever. I loved television sales. I was good at it. "The best boss ever", loved sales people that needed to make money. I needed to make money. It was a marriage made in heaven. What a fun and rewarding time of my life that was...
So here I am at a crossroads in my life. There's a lot about being a mom that is very rewarding. I know I'm very lucky to have lived the life I have lived so far. I've got an itch to do something else. I'm going to find it. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy. But there's something more for me out there....it's never too late to have a dream and try to fulfill it right? Surely, everyone has a dream and we're never too old to go for it. Join me!!
In 1990, I got married. We moved to Wichita Falls, Texas. My husband was a podiatrist in the Air Force. I sent a resume to every viable business in the directory that I got from the Wichita Falls Chamber of Commerce. I only heard from television and radio stations. I felt unbelievably lucky. I had dreams of being the next Barbara Walters. When I interviewed with the NBC affiliate (and my favorite boss ever), I got the job. When the Station Manager said, "where do you see yourself", I said, "on television". He said, "I see you in sales." I said, "ok". Best decision ever. I loved television sales. I was good at it. "The best boss ever", loved sales people that needed to make money. I needed to make money. It was a marriage made in heaven. What a fun and rewarding time of my life that was...
So here I am at a crossroads in my life. There's a lot about being a mom that is very rewarding. I know I'm very lucky to have lived the life I have lived so far. I've got an itch to do something else. I'm going to find it. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy. But there's something more for me out there....it's never too late to have a dream and try to fulfill it right? Surely, everyone has a dream and we're never too old to go for it. Join me!!
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Inmates Running the Asylum
I have a friend who has a lot of great one liners. This is one of my favorite. "The job of a teenager is to try to get away with stuff. My job as a parent is to stop them." It really is at least 4 years of yin and yang. Parents with older children continuously threaten my naivete with "just you wait, never say never or not my kid". I get that. But whatever happened to just saying "no". No is hard. Why is "no" not good enough? We live in a world of "yes". What happened to "I'm the adult, you're the child"? What happened to "because I said so"? Do these not work? Are there not privileges and material goods that we bestow on our teenagers that can be taken away? Are there no punishments for teenagers? Please say that ain't so!!
My daughter recently got second piercings in both her ears. That didn't bother me. She wanted her nose pierced. I said no. I try to check myself and not be judgemental or just old fashioned. There's something about a nose piercing on a young girl that screams, "I'm a bad ass". Same goes for boys with pierced ears. It screams to me, "I'm naughty, I want to be like Eminem, I can carry a keg". So why shouldn't boys have the same artistic expression that girls are entitled to? Pierced ears is supposed to be pretty. Can someone tell me if pierced ears on a boys means anything other than "I'm cool or worse, I wanna be cool?" I think there is a very fine line between artistic expression and marking your body at an early age just to be cool. Give me a better reason than everyone does it.
So, yes I have a tattoo. I got it when I was 40. It truly was/is an artistic expression of who I am. It makes me feel special. I did it for me. I'm old enough to handle any repercussions.
Tattoos and piercings are permanent. I just don't know of many teenagers that are mature enough to make that permanent commitment. They can't possibly know where their life is going to take them. The world is judgemental. We make judgements on appearance every day. They're so many things to fight over, I guess you have to pick your battles. Maybe tattoos and piercings are not something worth fighting over. I say as long as I'm paying the bills, I get to be the boss. I say that if parents are afraid to say no, we'll just have inmates running the asylum. Please join me in saying no, meaning it, and what the heck enjoying it!!
My daughter recently got second piercings in both her ears. That didn't bother me. She wanted her nose pierced. I said no. I try to check myself and not be judgemental or just old fashioned. There's something about a nose piercing on a young girl that screams, "I'm a bad ass". Same goes for boys with pierced ears. It screams to me, "I'm naughty, I want to be like Eminem, I can carry a keg". So why shouldn't boys have the same artistic expression that girls are entitled to? Pierced ears is supposed to be pretty. Can someone tell me if pierced ears on a boys means anything other than "I'm cool or worse, I wanna be cool?" I think there is a very fine line between artistic expression and marking your body at an early age just to be cool. Give me a better reason than everyone does it.
So, yes I have a tattoo. I got it when I was 40. It truly was/is an artistic expression of who I am. It makes me feel special. I did it for me. I'm old enough to handle any repercussions.
Tattoos and piercings are permanent. I just don't know of many teenagers that are mature enough to make that permanent commitment. They can't possibly know where their life is going to take them. The world is judgemental. We make judgements on appearance every day. They're so many things to fight over, I guess you have to pick your battles. Maybe tattoos and piercings are not something worth fighting over. I say as long as I'm paying the bills, I get to be the boss. I say that if parents are afraid to say no, we'll just have inmates running the asylum. Please join me in saying no, meaning it, and what the heck enjoying it!!
Monday, April 4, 2011
The Final Two and Why I Love Basketball
What a history my family and I have with the game of basketball. We love basketball. We all grew up playing basketball. I love to watch college basketball. I actually think I was a little grumpy last Monday because my bracket pick (Kansas) lost and I was oh so close. I actually ended up coming in last place. I had to find a new team to root for Saturday night, went with VCU, but then they lost. I like Butler now. UConn looks pretty good; can you say professional? It still gives me a reason to party tonight. I mean jeez, it's the final college game of the year.
My mom (Liz) coached CYO basketball for 10 years. All of us girls played for her. What a great memory that must be for her. I was always 6th man. My sisters were probably all better natural players. If I had my competitive spirit then that I have now, I have no doubt, I would be a better player. Somehow, I actually played in college for 2 years. That is funny.
I tried to get out of playing girls basketball my senior year of high school and try out for cheer leading. Cheer leading was so much cooler ( they definitely got the cuter boys). My mom was horrified. She hated the fact that they only cheered for boys sports and not girls (thankfully they don't do that anymore). She actually held my high school accountable for Title IX (equal numbers of girls and boys sports), so they added girls Lacrosse. She was a women's libber (she played college field hockey; how cool is that?). I swore she secretly brokered a deal so they wouldn't take me on the cheer leading squad. Reality says, I had no gymnastic/dance experience and probably wasn't that good. In the end, I'm glad I didn't get to do something for that shallow of a reason.
Liz had a knack for finding scholarship money (something every mom with 5 kids should have). My brother got $ (thanks to Liz) to play basketball at a college in DC. My parents went to most every game. They loved it. My senior year of college (1985) was the year of Georgetown vs Villanova. How smart did I think I was heading down to DC for Spring Break to hang at my brothers college and be in the city of the champions? Foiled yes, but we still had a blast!
My boys have played basketball since they were 5. I made Francine play until 6th grade and then I lost the passion to make her suffer. I actually coached a YMCA 5 year old basketball team before I had kids and before I knew how competitive everyone was going to be about their 5 year old boy learning basketball from a girl (god forbid). Basketball is one of the toughest sports to learn at a young age, it takes so much skill. My boys are still obsessed. My neighbors can vouch for the fact that they shoot hoops at least an hour a day. For what? I hate to squash a child's dream, but I firmly believe they have no chance to play high school basketball, let alone college. The competition is fierce. We've done the AAU thing (talent wise they are at the bottom of their age; but sure they'll take your $ if you want to pay to play). I've seen the high school play. They're awesome! There is still a tiny part of me that secretly prays they will get magic basketball powers while they're sleeping tonight.
So I guess what I've come around to knowing and believing in from basketball is that anything that gives you a common goal as a family is good. Any shared passion is a good passion. Parents being involved in their children's lives and taking stands on things is good, yes, even though they're teenagers. I'm going to continue taking an active role in my kids lives even though as teenagers they definitely don't want me to - join me!
To be continued on the topic of piecings and body art....
My mom (Liz) coached CYO basketball for 10 years. All of us girls played for her. What a great memory that must be for her. I was always 6th man. My sisters were probably all better natural players. If I had my competitive spirit then that I have now, I have no doubt, I would be a better player. Somehow, I actually played in college for 2 years. That is funny.
I tried to get out of playing girls basketball my senior year of high school and try out for cheer leading. Cheer leading was so much cooler ( they definitely got the cuter boys). My mom was horrified. She hated the fact that they only cheered for boys sports and not girls (thankfully they don't do that anymore). She actually held my high school accountable for Title IX (equal numbers of girls and boys sports), so they added girls Lacrosse. She was a women's libber (she played college field hockey; how cool is that?). I swore she secretly brokered a deal so they wouldn't take me on the cheer leading squad. Reality says, I had no gymnastic/dance experience and probably wasn't that good. In the end, I'm glad I didn't get to do something for that shallow of a reason.
Liz had a knack for finding scholarship money (something every mom with 5 kids should have). My brother got $ (thanks to Liz) to play basketball at a college in DC. My parents went to most every game. They loved it. My senior year of college (1985) was the year of Georgetown vs Villanova. How smart did I think I was heading down to DC for Spring Break to hang at my brothers college and be in the city of the champions? Foiled yes, but we still had a blast!
My boys have played basketball since they were 5. I made Francine play until 6th grade and then I lost the passion to make her suffer. I actually coached a YMCA 5 year old basketball team before I had kids and before I knew how competitive everyone was going to be about their 5 year old boy learning basketball from a girl (god forbid). Basketball is one of the toughest sports to learn at a young age, it takes so much skill. My boys are still obsessed. My neighbors can vouch for the fact that they shoot hoops at least an hour a day. For what? I hate to squash a child's dream, but I firmly believe they have no chance to play high school basketball, let alone college. The competition is fierce. We've done the AAU thing (talent wise they are at the bottom of their age; but sure they'll take your $ if you want to pay to play). I've seen the high school play. They're awesome! There is still a tiny part of me that secretly prays they will get magic basketball powers while they're sleeping tonight.
So I guess what I've come around to knowing and believing in from basketball is that anything that gives you a common goal as a family is good. Any shared passion is a good passion. Parents being involved in their children's lives and taking stands on things is good, yes, even though they're teenagers. I'm going to continue taking an active role in my kids lives even though as teenagers they definitely don't want me to - join me!
To be continued on the topic of piecings and body art....
Saturday, April 2, 2011
"Clean Living"
We really are a product of our environment. If I surround myself with "Cooking Light" or "Clean Eating" magazine instead of Rachel Ray, Martha Stewart, or Paula Deen, healthy eating is in my face easy.
This just dawned on me. My family ate butternut squash, spinach, edamames, cannelloni beans, turnip greens and kale this week. No one complained. Am I lucky; sure. But they are lucky too. They will be a product of the environment I created; most days healthy. My kids eat lots of fruit. I'm not always a fan. Primarily because I'm a little leery about getting excited about biting into a piece of fruit and having it not be as good as I expected. Lately, fruit has been great. I don't know if it's where I'm buying it (Super Walmart) but it has been better than usual. My girlfriend and I are wondering if Super Walmart's fruit and veggies may be better than the grocery store because they're turning over faster. Eating fruit for me really does help with my sweet tooth (to some extent; let's not get crazy), curbs my appetite and gives me energy. I'm so excited to have rediscovered fruit as part of my "Spring Training" healthy eating diet.
This weekend is a spring beauty, a gift. I'm going to get out there and enjoy it; join me!
PS: I ran 10 miles yesterday, so yes I indulged in a brownie with Goodberry's Ice Cream on top. I deserved it and it was delicious!
This just dawned on me. My family ate butternut squash, spinach, edamames, cannelloni beans, turnip greens and kale this week. No one complained. Am I lucky; sure. But they are lucky too. They will be a product of the environment I created; most days healthy. My kids eat lots of fruit. I'm not always a fan. Primarily because I'm a little leery about getting excited about biting into a piece of fruit and having it not be as good as I expected. Lately, fruit has been great. I don't know if it's where I'm buying it (Super Walmart) but it has been better than usual. My girlfriend and I are wondering if Super Walmart's fruit and veggies may be better than the grocery store because they're turning over faster. Eating fruit for me really does help with my sweet tooth (to some extent; let's not get crazy), curbs my appetite and gives me energy. I'm so excited to have rediscovered fruit as part of my "Spring Training" healthy eating diet.
This weekend is a spring beauty, a gift. I'm going to get out there and enjoy it; join me!
PS: I ran 10 miles yesterday, so yes I indulged in a brownie with Goodberry's Ice Cream on top. I deserved it and it was delicious!
Friday, April 1, 2011
Let's Talk Hair
Ah, the Burns girls and their lifelong struggle with their hair. I'm not struggling anymore; I'm embracing my curls. I've found the magic bullet. Here's hoping it can still look good (I'd take reasonable) when that nasty southern humidity kicks in mid May. This is our story...
Remember the episode of "Friends in the Bahamas". Here are the highlights.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wjdEWJY6KyI
My 3 sisters and I have hair that turns into "Monica's hair in the Bahamas" when humidity is present. It's not pretty. We are all brunettes (varying shades depending on the stylists). We all have natural curl of varying degrees. You know the saying, "grass is always greener on the other side of the fence". We have 3 girl cousins our same age that we've grown up with who have perfectly straight blond hair. Humidity makes their hair straighter. It seemed like a cruel joke for so long. I'm sure they still long for a little body; you just can't win.
My mom, a dark Irish gal, (Foley decent) had beautiful black hair that turned a beautiful white (early 40's) and has never been colored. Liz (my mom) has always had strong opinions regarding hair (among other things). She has never understood us coloring our hair "A" and "B" thinks long hair is a look only for the young. I'm wearing my hair long now. It's probably driving her crazy.
When we were little, we had a barber and his wife come to our farm to cut our hair. 7 people; same haircut. One size fits all. So many tears. Now, I don't blame my mom for arranging this. Seems reasonable and probably cost effective to have someone come to your house and cut every one's hair at the same time. Really, she was ahead of her time. People love this kind of service now. The barber and his wife were characters. My mom says he came on to her once. We (my sisters and I) think they were swingers and my parents just didn't know. They were definitely hippies and were probably stoned and my parents didn't know that either. I had the straightest hair. I wanted a "Dorothy Hamill". I thought "Frank" came close to that look. Someone actually gave me a perm in High School. I wish I could find a picture of that look; I'm sure it was a beauty.
We've done Keratin the past few years. It does work. If you haven't tried it and want your hair relaxed you need to do it. It's a little pricey, but it lasts a few months. Just google "Keratin" and you'll find someone who does it in your area. Side note: it may be cancer causing but that's just the price of beauty right?!! I stumbled onto a late night QVC show for "Wen". I love that product and have used it for the past few months which led me to my new curly hair find. I was in the beauty supply store (on the down low) and asked them if they were selling a product similar to "Wen" a no sulfate, no suds shampoo. The beauty supply personal introduced me to a new line "Deva Concepts", ttp://www.devaconcepts.com/products/curl/DevaCurl_NoPoo
Awesome! Now, I'm waiting for the humidity; but I think I'm going to be good. I swear my hair looks like Minnie Driver on a good day; I'll take it!! I want to be able to swim for exercise and for so long that was impossible because you can't let chlorine water touch the "Keratin". I still have to do some extra hoops to get the chlorine out of my hair, but it resumes it's healthy hair status pretty quickly. I've also had a stylist tell me to add Baking Soda to my shampoo to naturally get out the chlorine. That's good news because the clarifying shampoo I had bought made my hair feel like straw.
Well, there's always some new product out there to save the day. Some work better than others. There's probably not a magic bullet that's going to make you ready for bathing suit season though. It's going to take some good ole fashioned sweat! I'm hearing good reports from people that have added exercise to their daily routines and are starting to see results. Memorial Day weekend is only 56 days away; I want to look good in my bathing suit; join me!
Remember the episode of "Friends in the Bahamas". Here are the highlights.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wjdEWJY6KyI
My 3 sisters and I have hair that turns into "Monica's hair in the Bahamas" when humidity is present. It's not pretty. We are all brunettes (varying shades depending on the stylists). We all have natural curl of varying degrees. You know the saying, "grass is always greener on the other side of the fence". We have 3 girl cousins our same age that we've grown up with who have perfectly straight blond hair. Humidity makes their hair straighter. It seemed like a cruel joke for so long. I'm sure they still long for a little body; you just can't win.
My mom, a dark Irish gal, (Foley decent) had beautiful black hair that turned a beautiful white (early 40's) and has never been colored. Liz (my mom) has always had strong opinions regarding hair (among other things). She has never understood us coloring our hair "A" and "B" thinks long hair is a look only for the young. I'm wearing my hair long now. It's probably driving her crazy.
When we were little, we had a barber and his wife come to our farm to cut our hair. 7 people; same haircut. One size fits all. So many tears. Now, I don't blame my mom for arranging this. Seems reasonable and probably cost effective to have someone come to your house and cut every one's hair at the same time. Really, she was ahead of her time. People love this kind of service now. The barber and his wife were characters. My mom says he came on to her once. We (my sisters and I) think they were swingers and my parents just didn't know. They were definitely hippies and were probably stoned and my parents didn't know that either. I had the straightest hair. I wanted a "Dorothy Hamill". I thought "Frank" came close to that look. Someone actually gave me a perm in High School. I wish I could find a picture of that look; I'm sure it was a beauty.
We've done Keratin the past few years. It does work. If you haven't tried it and want your hair relaxed you need to do it. It's a little pricey, but it lasts a few months. Just google "Keratin" and you'll find someone who does it in your area. Side note: it may be cancer causing but that's just the price of beauty right?!! I stumbled onto a late night QVC show for "Wen". I love that product and have used it for the past few months which led me to my new curly hair find. I was in the beauty supply store (on the down low) and asked them if they were selling a product similar to "Wen" a no sulfate, no suds shampoo. The beauty supply personal introduced me to a new line "Deva Concepts", ttp://www.devaconcepts.com/products/curl/DevaCurl_NoPoo
Awesome! Now, I'm waiting for the humidity; but I think I'm going to be good. I swear my hair looks like Minnie Driver on a good day; I'll take it!! I want to be able to swim for exercise and for so long that was impossible because you can't let chlorine water touch the "Keratin". I still have to do some extra hoops to get the chlorine out of my hair, but it resumes it's healthy hair status pretty quickly. I've also had a stylist tell me to add Baking Soda to my shampoo to naturally get out the chlorine. That's good news because the clarifying shampoo I had bought made my hair feel like straw.
Well, there's always some new product out there to save the day. Some work better than others. There's probably not a magic bullet that's going to make you ready for bathing suit season though. It's going to take some good ole fashioned sweat! I'm hearing good reports from people that have added exercise to their daily routines and are starting to see results. Memorial Day weekend is only 56 days away; I want to look good in my bathing suit; join me!
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Healthy Delivered
Very excited about upcoming delivery of my "Produce Box". Deliveries begin mid April. If you didn't sign up for this last year; reconsider. It's healthy delivered to your door. If you don't live in the Raleigh/Cary area just google something like "fresh produce delivered to door". You'll be surprised by what you may find.
Interesting article:
http://www.newsobserver.com/2010/08/15/629755/new-businesses-make-it-convenient.html#ixzz0wg3RWHjv
I know some people shared a box if they didn't think their family could eat it all; that's a great idea. The Stylski's plowed through the box (shocking). Yes, there were times things weren't perfect, but they never are at the grocery store either. It's great to support a local farm actually trying to make a living farming and doing for me what I consider a great service; delivering something fresh, green and healthy to my door. The kids did get a kick out of unpacking the box and trying some new things (somethings I had never seen or heard of before; and that's saying a lot for someone who has eaten pig's tongue and cow brains).
Great week to try something new in your "Spring Training" work out. Very sore from "Cardio Mix Up" class yesterday. Thankfully, not the sore that hurts to actually sit down on the toilet sore (like when you actually have to hold on to the walls) just happy sore. I think it's great to change things up; no pain no gain; join me!!
Interesting article:
http://www.newsobserver.com/2010/08/15/629755/new-businesses-make-it-convenient.html#ixzz0wg3RWHjv
I know some people shared a box if they didn't think their family could eat it all; that's a great idea. The Stylski's plowed through the box (shocking). Yes, there were times things weren't perfect, but they never are at the grocery store either. It's great to support a local farm actually trying to make a living farming and doing for me what I consider a great service; delivering something fresh, green and healthy to my door. The kids did get a kick out of unpacking the box and trying some new things (somethings I had never seen or heard of before; and that's saying a lot for someone who has eaten pig's tongue and cow brains).
Great week to try something new in your "Spring Training" work out. Very sore from "Cardio Mix Up" class yesterday. Thankfully, not the sore that hurts to actually sit down on the toilet sore (like when you actually have to hold on to the walls) just happy sore. I think it's great to change things up; no pain no gain; join me!!
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Second Chances
OMG, Chris Brown was awesome on "Dancing With The Stars" last night. I've heard his music but have never seen him perform. He is a very talented artist in my book. I loved the show. I'd pay to see him. Now we all know his personal life was/is a mess. Who knows what's tabloid and what's real. He's definitely done some bad stuff. He's about to be 22 years old. That's all. He's a baby. Here's hoping he can turn his personal life around.
We all have people in our lives that make decisions that we don't get. Maybe they are mistakes. I come from a big family. We've suffered through many bad decisions together. A lot of times bad decisions affect everyone around us, but the level of the effect is up to us. The thing I've come to grips with (at my ripe old age of 48) is people's decisions are just that - people's decisions. I can't change or dictate people's choices. I don't want to engage in conversation about what could happen if a person makes a "perceived" bad decision. I'm going to just let life play out. It's not black or white to me; there's a lot of gray. When people take a stand on their belief of another person's life decision there's usually a fork in the road with no turning back. That's not always good.
My kids are teenagers. I'm waiting for the bad decisions. They will have to take responsibility for them and together we'll have to weather the storm. I don't have to do that for anyone else except myself. Thank goodness!!
I'm so proud of my daughter. She made the decision to get active. She also gave up meat for her Lenten sacrifice and is diligent about it. She has the support of some great girlfriends. She's happy she lost 2lbs; not that she needed to lose weight, but she is happy and comfortable because she feels good in her clothes and she feels good doing something positive for herself.
I was doing so well with my choices until no one would take the last bowl of "Double Strawberry" ice cream with (a few) shortbread cookies. I just couldn't throw it away. Luckily I get the chance to work it off today; join me!!
We all have people in our lives that make decisions that we don't get. Maybe they are mistakes. I come from a big family. We've suffered through many bad decisions together. A lot of times bad decisions affect everyone around us, but the level of the effect is up to us. The thing I've come to grips with (at my ripe old age of 48) is people's decisions are just that - people's decisions. I can't change or dictate people's choices. I don't want to engage in conversation about what could happen if a person makes a "perceived" bad decision. I'm going to just let life play out. It's not black or white to me; there's a lot of gray. When people take a stand on their belief of another person's life decision there's usually a fork in the road with no turning back. That's not always good.
My kids are teenagers. I'm waiting for the bad decisions. They will have to take responsibility for them and together we'll have to weather the storm. I don't have to do that for anyone else except myself. Thank goodness!!
I'm so proud of my daughter. She made the decision to get active. She also gave up meat for her Lenten sacrifice and is diligent about it. She has the support of some great girlfriends. She's happy she lost 2lbs; not that she needed to lose weight, but she is happy and comfortable because she feels good in her clothes and she feels good doing something positive for herself.
I was doing so well with my choices until no one would take the last bowl of "Double Strawberry" ice cream with (a few) shortbread cookies. I just couldn't throw it away. Luckily I get the chance to work it off today; join me!!
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Get Back on The Bus
This is what I'm telling myself this morning. Get Back on The Bus, Get Back on The Bus!! The healthy bus is calling me and I'm jumping on. I almost wish that is was April 1 today, so I could get a completely new slate with a new month. But it's Monday, the start of a new week and that is going to have to be good enough.
That paragraph was yesterday. I'm sure I'm not alone that yesterday was one of those days that took a little more "mojo" to get going. It was a classic cold, rainy, Monday. It took me until 4:15p to go for a run (the sun had come out), but I did it. I lost my mojo somewhere over the weekend. Life's "omnipresent downs" got me down a little. It's not a big deal. We all have something similar to a dog (who ate chicken wings) with uncontrollable diarrhea. Everyone has a similar story; something that stops you from being your best upbeat self; a job you don't like, a nasty boss, a whiny spouse, a bratty kid, illness, traffic - but I truly don't want to get caught up in this stuff; I'm just acknowledging that we all have it and it's about moving forward and not getting caught up in it.
Some days you can pick dog diarrhea up and it just doesn't bother you the same as it did the day before. I'm going to have one of those days as I get back on the bus and head to the gym; join me!
That paragraph was yesterday. I'm sure I'm not alone that yesterday was one of those days that took a little more "mojo" to get going. It was a classic cold, rainy, Monday. It took me until 4:15p to go for a run (the sun had come out), but I did it. I lost my mojo somewhere over the weekend. Life's "omnipresent downs" got me down a little. It's not a big deal. We all have something similar to a dog (who ate chicken wings) with uncontrollable diarrhea. Everyone has a similar story; something that stops you from being your best upbeat self; a job you don't like, a nasty boss, a whiny spouse, a bratty kid, illness, traffic - but I truly don't want to get caught up in this stuff; I'm just acknowledging that we all have it and it's about moving forward and not getting caught up in it.
Some days you can pick dog diarrhea up and it just doesn't bother you the same as it did the day before. I'm going to have one of those days as I get back on the bus and head to the gym; join me!
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Pop Culture
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CD2LRROpph0
Have you seen this video that your kids are all watching? I actually find it catchy and the good news it's squeaky clean. Not a bad word to be found. The kids are kind of making fun of it, but they also secretly like it.
Yesterday, I couldn't get it out of my head. "It's Friday, Friday, Getting Down On Friday". Still have a little of that working girl, college mentality in my head. Meanwhile Friday really isn't any different than Tuesday to me, but oh well, another reason to celebrate something.
My birthday week is coming to a close sadly. I don't think I'm going to be celebrating when I get on the scale Monday. I'm going to make myself do it (but I don't wanna). Next week is one of those classic early spring weather weeks; cold and rainy. I'm going to make it a serious gym; get back on the bus "Spring Training" week; join me!!
Have you seen this video that your kids are all watching? I actually find it catchy and the good news it's squeaky clean. Not a bad word to be found. The kids are kind of making fun of it, but they also secretly like it.
Yesterday, I couldn't get it out of my head. "It's Friday, Friday, Getting Down On Friday". Still have a little of that working girl, college mentality in my head. Meanwhile Friday really isn't any different than Tuesday to me, but oh well, another reason to celebrate something.
My birthday week is coming to a close sadly. I don't think I'm going to be celebrating when I get on the scale Monday. I'm going to make myself do it (but I don't wanna). Next week is one of those classic early spring weather weeks; cold and rainy. I'm going to make it a serious gym; get back on the bus "Spring Training" week; join me!!
Friday, March 25, 2011
House Party
I love hosting house parties. I've definitely had my fair share; no one would dispute that....I have had Christmas Eve Open Houses for over 100 people, Thanksgivings, St. Patty's Day, Partylite (candles), "Back to School" (one of the most memorable neighborhood parties to date), Mary Kaye, Passion Parties (google it mom; I'm not going into a lot of detail on that one), Tupperware and on and on and on. Always looking for a reason to celebrate life with friends and family is my motto. I remember someone saying a while ago, "you'll burn yourself out eventually". Burned out, no! Slowed down, maybe....
Last night, I hosted a Partylite party, one of my current favorite vices. I love candles. They're sexy. They create such a pretty ambiance. They smell good. I'd burn them all day if I could - sometimes I do. I rallied late in the afternoon to make it a good party. Yummy Black Bean Dip, Spicy Corn Dip,desserts and drinks were all served up. I love the line, "just come, you don't have to buy anything?" Does anyone really believe that? Thanks for buying! I enjoyed your company, the fun night and got a few free candles; hope that's okay.
In my past, I was once a Mary Kaye representative... pick your jaw off the ground and listen...very few get out of Texas unscathed in the Mary Kaye world of cosmetics. I was young, working in TV advertising sales, went to a party and somehow was at the bank within the week getting the $1500 to start my business. For me, this was an unsuccessful venture. Why? Well, Liz (my mom) took us very young to the cosmetic counter (Clinique for starters). We are as a whole (sisters and mom included) cosmetic junkies. When my mom walks into Nordstrom in the King of Prussia Mall; the ladies great her by name! We're always looking for the new latest greatest product; there is no loyalty to one line. I was doomed. Everyone did enjoy Mary Kaye products for years to come as Christmas and Birthday presents.
Getting cleaned up and brainstorming my next party. Join me...
Last night, I hosted a Partylite party, one of my current favorite vices. I love candles. They're sexy. They create such a pretty ambiance. They smell good. I'd burn them all day if I could - sometimes I do. I rallied late in the afternoon to make it a good party. Yummy Black Bean Dip, Spicy Corn Dip,desserts and drinks were all served up. I love the line, "just come, you don't have to buy anything?" Does anyone really believe that? Thanks for buying! I enjoyed your company, the fun night and got a few free candles; hope that's okay.
In my past, I was once a Mary Kaye representative... pick your jaw off the ground and listen...very few get out of Texas unscathed in the Mary Kaye world of cosmetics. I was young, working in TV advertising sales, went to a party and somehow was at the bank within the week getting the $1500 to start my business. For me, this was an unsuccessful venture. Why? Well, Liz (my mom) took us very young to the cosmetic counter (Clinique for starters). We are as a whole (sisters and mom included) cosmetic junkies. When my mom walks into Nordstrom in the King of Prussia Mall; the ladies great her by name! We're always looking for the new latest greatest product; there is no loyalty to one line. I was doomed. Everyone did enjoy Mary Kaye products for years to come as Christmas and Birthday presents.
Getting cleaned up and brainstorming my next party. Join me...
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Sneaky Smokes
Let me say, I am not currently a smoker. By declaring that it helps keep me clean (and hopefully prevents anyone I may have ever bummed one from offering me one on a girls night out). But I have been a smoker at different times in my life. It doesn't fit me or the life I want to live now. When I say I want to live to see my kids live healthy and happy lives, I know that does not involve smoking, period.
When I arrived at Marymount College, an all girls Catholic college in Tarrytown, NY, I was truly an innocent country girl happy to be out of state and in a state where I was legal to drink in 1981. The first night there, I remember a group of girls and I walking downtown and each buying a case of "ponies" (short beers) and a pack of cigarettes. No one asked questions. It just seemed like the thing to do. Everyone did it. I was sick for 3 days. That should have put a stop to it you would think, but it didn't deter me. There were different brands for different years and different roommates since you were probably going to bum one every once in awhile.
I got snagged early on Freshmen year by mom (Liz). Liz swears she's never taken a puff in her life. My dad was a pack a day Pall Mall smoker until he turned like 63. His doctor told him (seemingly for the first time) that it wasn't healthy and he should quit and he did - cold turkey (that's amazing)!! Anyway, my parents had come up for parents weekend. They had just arrived, walked into the lobby and Liz walks over to the cigarette machine that has a note on it "this machine owes Lysa Burns $1.25". Totally embarrassing.
Since then it's been bouts of "Sneaky Smokes". I've never thought it looked cool so it became a private vice. Growing up the oldest of 5 kids, I know I have tendencies to be a "goody 2 shoes". Smoking is naughty. It made me feel secretly "bad". It was a sneaky, bad, vice. A sort of in your face, I'm in charge of my life (yea, slowly killing myself) bad choice.
The thing about "Sneaky Smokes" is they are in no way sneaky. They stink. It's so hard to sneak a smoke in today's anti smoking world. I've also done the math. It takes about 3 minutes to smoke a cigarette and it takes 10 minutes off your life. That kind of defeats the purpose for me of "Spring Training" etc. I now know why I never swam in the past besides the hair (another story). Swimming makes you painstakingly aware of any lung damage you may have done to yourself. I don't want to cause any more damage.
I swear, I'm not being righteous. I totally get it. It's something that definitely pops into my head. But I don't want to and I'm in control of my life. I'm not going to let anything control me. Smoking, especially "Sneaky Smokes" can control your life as can other negative vices. No negative vices.... Join me!
When I arrived at Marymount College, an all girls Catholic college in Tarrytown, NY, I was truly an innocent country girl happy to be out of state and in a state where I was legal to drink in 1981. The first night there, I remember a group of girls and I walking downtown and each buying a case of "ponies" (short beers) and a pack of cigarettes. No one asked questions. It just seemed like the thing to do. Everyone did it. I was sick for 3 days. That should have put a stop to it you would think, but it didn't deter me. There were different brands for different years and different roommates since you were probably going to bum one every once in awhile.
I got snagged early on Freshmen year by mom (Liz). Liz swears she's never taken a puff in her life. My dad was a pack a day Pall Mall smoker until he turned like 63. His doctor told him (seemingly for the first time) that it wasn't healthy and he should quit and he did - cold turkey (that's amazing)!! Anyway, my parents had come up for parents weekend. They had just arrived, walked into the lobby and Liz walks over to the cigarette machine that has a note on it "this machine owes Lysa Burns $1.25". Totally embarrassing.
Since then it's been bouts of "Sneaky Smokes". I've never thought it looked cool so it became a private vice. Growing up the oldest of 5 kids, I know I have tendencies to be a "goody 2 shoes". Smoking is naughty. It made me feel secretly "bad". It was a sneaky, bad, vice. A sort of in your face, I'm in charge of my life (yea, slowly killing myself) bad choice.
The thing about "Sneaky Smokes" is they are in no way sneaky. They stink. It's so hard to sneak a smoke in today's anti smoking world. I've also done the math. It takes about 3 minutes to smoke a cigarette and it takes 10 minutes off your life. That kind of defeats the purpose for me of "Spring Training" etc. I now know why I never swam in the past besides the hair (another story). Swimming makes you painstakingly aware of any lung damage you may have done to yourself. I don't want to cause any more damage.
I swear, I'm not being righteous. I totally get it. It's something that definitely pops into my head. But I don't want to and I'm in control of my life. I'm not going to let anything control me. Smoking, especially "Sneaky Smokes" can control your life as can other negative vices. No negative vices.... Join me!
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
From Patrick
My son Patrick wasn't named for a family member or my love of "St Patrick's" day. You're gonna love this one. Think tennis...1997... US Open HOTTIE...yep, Patrick Rafter. I was on bed rest incubating the boys and totally had a teenage crush on Patrick Rafter. If I could have scored a poster, I would have put it on my wall like Shaun Cassidy back in the day. In the end he is a "St Patty's" day Patrick; blue eyes, freckles, and a great sense of humor (a little mature for his age at times). He is whimsical like a leprechaun. He is creative and very bright. He makes me laugh. He makes everyone laugh which I'm pretty sure gets him into a little trouble in school at times.
This is a special note Patrick gave me on my birthday this Sunday:
"Mom,
Your job in this house is to help and protect your kids and make life for us a whole lot easier and I think you're doing a fantastic job at that. You don't need to make money! I hope you still exercise and do very well in your (life is short) triathlons or marathons. You are not going to give DAISY my best friend away because if you do I will run away!! Keep up the good work with your job!"
"Out of the mouths of babes". That note made me feel like Patrick likes and respects me. He's deep for a 13 year old. He makes me feel good about myself. He's special. I know he's going to choose to dance (probably too much at times), but I will always be a supporter. Sorry Patrick, the jury's still out on Daisy's future even with the threat of your early departure. I love you and hope you'll stay anyway.
My job has become a lot easier these days. I try to mother to the best of my abilities and still make time for me. My kids respect my activities and passions in life. Being a good mother doesn't have to mean being completely enveloped in your kids; they want you to be you; what else are you going to have when they are gone? Join me...
This is a special note Patrick gave me on my birthday this Sunday:
"Mom,
Your job in this house is to help and protect your kids and make life for us a whole lot easier and I think you're doing a fantastic job at that. You don't need to make money! I hope you still exercise and do very well in your (life is short) triathlons or marathons. You are not going to give DAISY my best friend away because if you do I will run away!! Keep up the good work with your job!"
"Out of the mouths of babes". That note made me feel like Patrick likes and respects me. He's deep for a 13 year old. He makes me feel good about myself. He's special. I know he's going to choose to dance (probably too much at times), but I will always be a supporter. Sorry Patrick, the jury's still out on Daisy's future even with the threat of your early departure. I love you and hope you'll stay anyway.
My job has become a lot easier these days. I try to mother to the best of my abilities and still make time for me. My kids respect my activities and passions in life. Being a good mother doesn't have to mean being completely enveloped in your kids; they want you to be you; what else are you going to have when they are gone? Join me...
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
I Choose To Dance
I celebrated my birthday with 3 of my sisters this weekend (one unfortunately had a business trip and couldn't make it). We had a great time. We always do. It's a choice we make. It's a choice anyone can make at anytime.
We ate, we drank, we laughed, we danced. I did go for a long run with one of my sisters (the only part of the weekend that I can say was anything close to "Spring Training"). It was a beautiful run. The sun was on our face and the wind was in our hair. Cliche I know, but true. For my sister and I this was a very special part of the weekend because it made us feel good (productive) and happy to be together sharing a beautiful day free of any responsibility. Bonus, I got to see my mom on my birthday in my favorite hot spot with my god daughter. I organized my day so I arrived home just in time for my family to take me out to dinner. I don't even want to know how many calories were consumed Sunday. I have a lot of work to do this week.
Yesterday was a total rehab day for me. You know the old joke, "Betty Ford called and they saved a room for you", may actually apply. But I'm back in the saddle today and ready to live my real life. I know I'm lucky. But I've made choices to live the life I'm living. There's been good days and bad days; that's just life. I choose to not live in the past. I choose to continue to light candles and dance with no regrets; join me.
We ate, we drank, we laughed, we danced. I did go for a long run with one of my sisters (the only part of the weekend that I can say was anything close to "Spring Training"). It was a beautiful run. The sun was on our face and the wind was in our hair. Cliche I know, but true. For my sister and I this was a very special part of the weekend because it made us feel good (productive) and happy to be together sharing a beautiful day free of any responsibility. Bonus, I got to see my mom on my birthday in my favorite hot spot with my god daughter. I organized my day so I arrived home just in time for my family to take me out to dinner. I don't even want to know how many calories were consumed Sunday. I have a lot of work to do this week.
Yesterday was a total rehab day for me. You know the old joke, "Betty Ford called and they saved a room for you", may actually apply. But I'm back in the saddle today and ready to live my real life. I know I'm lucky. But I've made choices to live the life I'm living. There's been good days and bad days; that's just life. I choose to not live in the past. I choose to continue to light candles and dance with no regrets; join me.
Thursday, March 17, 2011
I am Irish and Lucky
The Stylski's went to Ireland for Thanksgiving 2009. One of my sisters joined us. It was a beautiful place with friendly people, beautiful landscape and lots of interesting history. I had just started being very conscious about what I was eating after a wardrobe debacle at a wedding in October, where I was forced to wear spanx with a dress that had previously not required undergarments. Now that is motivation to start a diet plan. I don't care what anyone says; undergarments are not comfortable and are serious gas producers.
So here we are in Ireland and the Stylski boys are in heaven. Meat pie, potatoes,and more meat pie and potatoes. They seemed to be able to eat meat morning (endless amounts available at the full Irish breakfast), noon and night. Weird that Ireland is surrounded by water; not great selection of fresh fish available; when we found great fish it was very expensive; although it could have just been the season we were visiting. I found that Ireland was similar to North Carolina in that their best fish dish was fried. I ended up eating a lot of smoked salmon which filled my body with enough carcinogens to negate any health benefits by eating fish. I didn't gain weight on a two week vacation that including drinking a lot of Guiness and Jamisons, so that was amazing; but we never stopped moving and as you know that helps. Speaking of Guiness, my sister and I were shocked to find out that a pint of Guiness is only 126 calories for a 12 oz.; not bad at all. We did also enjoy some delicious Irish coffee (with whipped cream of course)!
The point is being on a "Spring Training" plan is forever. It doesn't go completely away on a vacation. Being conscious of food decisions and exercise is a constant.
--Five frogs are sitting on a log. Four decide to jump off. How many are left? Answer: five.
Why? Because there's a difference between deciding & doing.
This is supposedly and old Irish saying. It says exactly what "Spring Training" is all about. I'm jumping off the log; join me.
PS: Today is my 21st Wedding Anniversary; for that I am lucky and lucky to have had the opportunity to go to a beautiful country like Ireland with my beautiful family; what a great experience.
Happy St. Patrick's Day!
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